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Ignorance isn't the answer!Mar 22 '01 Write an essay on this topic.
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The Bottom Line Ignorance really isn't the way, not always!
Why Ignorance isn't the answer? Over the years kids have been taught repeatedly to ignore the bullying and teasing, to just let go of it. They say it as if it is easy to do. True, that we have two ears : goes through one ear, and out the other, but in between those years, we have a brain. A brain which connects to all parts of our body, including our heart. If something like that goes through our years, it touches a very deep part of the heart, and it really hurts then. You can't ignore your heart, that is like ignoring yourself, your feelings...and falling into the world of illusions. What is the answer then? If ignorance isn't the answer, what is? Should the child fight back? Bring a gun to school and simply start shooting everyone who teased him the day before? No. You can fight back, but there are ways to do so. There is a certain kind of fight that you have to do, which will not further provoke the person, but stop or reduce the teasing and bullying. Letting Your Feelings Out! The first thing to do is to get your feelings out! You should never keep something in your heart, when it hurts you, your heart isn't designed to handle that. It can't handle too much pain, it is too small. It only has enough room for love, don't take up love's space! That's just wrong. Talk to someone you trust. This can be a teacher, a parent, a relative, or even a friend. Talk to someone who you think will understand. Don't think anyone will understand? Then talk to yourself! Go out for a walk, and talk to yourself. Can't go out? Go to the bathroom, look in the mirror, and talk. Talking will get your feelings out and let you think clearly. Take Action! Next, is to take action. Action can be taken by a parent, a school administrative, neighborhood, etc. For action to be taken, you have to tell someone. Don't be afraid of someone calling you a chicken or sissy, because not telling someone is being a coward. Telling someone requires a lot of nerve and guts! The best person to tell would probably be the teacher of the class where teasing takes place or the school administrative who is responsible for the area where the bullying takes place. The school administrative can do a lot, don't underestimate them. Personal Experiences I remember, in High School, there was an acquaintance of mine who was constantly teased and harassed by her 'friends.' In fact, her friends even passed around this paper around school which had all kinds of profanity and offending messages. These 'friends' somehow got her locker number, and pasted several copies of that all over her locker. The girl was obviously sad, she was depressed for a while. The teasing continues for a while, she asked them to stop it, but they simply wouldn't. Then she took action. She told the school that they are harassing her, the school changed the schedule of her friends so that the girl would have no classes, not even lunch with these friends. The harassing stopped in school but continued outside; until one day, each of the girls received a notice from the girl's lawyer, about harassment. I don't know if the girl was really going to be taking this to court, but it did stop the harassment. Then there was this another girl, she was actually a friend of mine. She was continually teased and bullied around because she had "problems." People, and even some teachers would embarrass her in public by asking her 'questionable' questions. She did nothing about it; didn't tell anyone in school or her parents. Only told friends; friends like me. Before she told any of us (friends) she would cry her eyes out, worry about it and wish that she was dead. After sharing a bit of her feelings, we tried to make her feel better, and she did. But it didn't end the teasing and bullying! People would continue to do this, and she became extremely dependent on us. Every time she got teased, it would become harder and harder to control her or calm her down. What if we weren't there? What would happen to her? This was just wrong. I wish I had told someone so it would end the teasing and bullying, but I didn't. (still regret not doing so) So, if you know a person (if you are still in school, that is) who gets teased and bullied, go tell someone. This is NOT something that should be kept a secret. Surprises You would be surprised to know how many kids don't mean what they say; they are just being sarcastic or fooling around. Most of the time, you can just confront the person who is teasing/bullying you and ask them to stop. Tell them that its an inappropriate comment, that really hurts them. Let them know where the "line" is. You should build respect for yourself, so that others think before they say anything to your or anything about you.  |
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