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TWO? YOU MUST BE MISTAKEN!Apr 14 '01 Write an essay on this topic.
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The Bottom Line Personally I would wish that everyone could have a twin! You always have a friend to do things with.
I am a 31 year old Identical twin, in which I have no children but have plenty of experience of things we went through as well as our parents. My mother is 4'11 and a very petite woman weighing normally no more than 110 pounds. My father was stationed in Germany that is where we were born. At birth I weighed in at 3lbs and my sister 2lbs do to being premature but even so being so small the doctors were unable to detect my sister. So as you can imagine what a SURPRISE it was for my parents! As the story is told my father was in the waiting room and a nurse came out and pointed to my dad and said "its a girl" and then another nurse came out and pointed towards him and said "its a girl" he looked at the other guy in the waiting room and said "congratulations you have a girl too" they both looked at the nurse through the glass petition and the nurse shock her head no and pointed back to my dad and said "you have twin girls" he was more than excited. We lived in an apartment at the time in Germany in which we lived on the third floor. My dad went running the flights of stairs repeating we had twins we had twins. Me and my sister growing up looked identical the only exception was that she had a mole on the side of her nose and i did not. Most people did not even pay attention to that difference. Instead they would rather just call us the "K_ _ _'s twins" Because they could not tell us apart. This lead to many different issues. My sister hated that no one ever called us by our names so she did many different things to try to get her own identity. She went as far as coloring her hair pink now know this was in the early 80's and that definitely was not the style but that's how tired she was of us being one. However there were times that I liked the fact that we could dress the same and play tricks on teachers, boyfriends, neighbors and the list goes on and on. When we were growing up if one of us did something wrong both of us got in trouble. Due to the fact that they could not tell us apart they would suspend both of us with only one doing the wrong. Which wasn't fair to me since I of course was the good one. "wink" I think that when raising multiples its important to let them have their own identity. To help avoid these type of situations of being one instead of two separate individuals. When they are old enough to realize their own identity you should give them the choice to dress differently or wear their hair different or whatever just so they can be themselves. I find it very interesting when we were teenagers my sister did not want to be a twin muchless dress alike and now that we're adults there are many occasions that she wants us to dress alike. As well as making it known that she is an identical twin. Interesting how things change! So my advice to those raising multiples would be to always make sure you give each of them their own identity. As well as allowing them to have their own personality. And not to assume that just because one of them does a particular thing doesn't mean that the other'(s) will also like it or if its a negative personality trait it doesn't mean that the other'(s) will be the same way. So just allow each of them to be their own person and enjoy them for being who they are! My personal experience as an identical twin has given me many fond memories of our childhood. Now as adults we are still very close. We still get confused at different places and lots of people still call me by my sister name and vice aversa. But as a whole its been a lot of fun. To me there's no bonding like a bonding between a set of multiples!  |
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