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Teenage SexualityJul 17 '01 (Updated Jul 29 '01) Write an essay on this topic.
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With the onset of buxom teen stars, there is an issue left out of parent-children discussions now. Young women and males use their sexual attributes in the music industry more than ever. It started with Elvis’ X-rated pelvic movements. With stars like Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Pink, and boy bands like *N SYNC, O-Town, and more, it’s not wonder we feel so pressured in society. It was always thought as taboo for a woman to act or look sexual. For her to wear tight or revealing clothes, or flaunt her love for physical attention was unheard of. Males have long been thought of as those who either were clean gentlemen, or dirty pigs. Women have always been taught to sit like ladies with their legs crossed. I really can say I respect society back in the days where women did not give up their virginity before marriage. Times have changed drastically. Women in the music industry especially are sought after for their looks more than anything else. No offense, but I doubt a girl like Britney could see the way she does being an overweight unattractive teen. Personally her dancing is the only thing I’m impressed by, but I think anyone could master it with the hours they spend practicing. This is used so often-the good girl or bad girl images helping to sell albums. But we seem to forget that young males do not have to show much to be attractive. Yet the shirtless sexy looks and thrusting in concerts never gives them a bad rap. I feel this is a growing issue in society and seriously needs looked into. There are so many prevalations on what a young woman should be. Even children see these videos, as older girls they look up to, wanting to dress and look like them. With my previous job, many children came up to me about 12 years old with more makeup and cuter clothes than I have at times. This frustrates me. Many of them came alone or with a parent and other children. It was like they were being taught to grow up faster. I remember as a child, I did not like my looks and wanted to be popular. As youth, young women are in the realization to be a girlie girl. From the pink clothes and bedroom, to the ideas of a fantasy wedding, girls are expected to be feminine and proper. Sex is thought as more as punishment or untrue love. We are expected to be stricter with daughters than sons as parents. Males on the other hand, grow into puberty thinking of sex all day. Taught to be tough and masculine, and sometimes, without a feminine side. I never hear of parents sitting down with their son(s), and discussing the proper ways to treat a lady and manners. I think parents drift off more with sons thinking their sex drive will get the best of them, which often does happen. So what does all this mean? I feel parents have more of a responsibility to their children on this. Sex is left out at times and physical limits as well. I feel a lot of girls push themselves to hard to be the perfect looking woman and wanted by guys. I feel insecurities are on the rise. I see many beautiful women that are insecure about their looks and with guys. I have a few friends who brag about kissing 40 guys or willing give themselves to guys too easily. This upsets me because it seems like a vie for attention. Plus a poor home life with drug abuse, depression, abusive behavior, etc. can also lead to children drifting to other sources of “love”. I hate to rip on guys, but teenage boys have become so promiscuous over the years. I feel often that they need to know how to control their hormones. Boy bands are always seen as innocent hotties-yet their thrusting and sexy dance moves, clothes, and whole image is as bad as the girls. With songs like “Faded” talking about a guy trying to get the right words to get a female friend in bed, I feel they need to learn how to respect and love a woman’s mind more. I think parents need to be strict on how they teach a guy to treat a woman. How much is too sexual? The question debated by parents and teens is how should I act? Women may have heard the phrase “You can’t turn a ho into a housewife”. But with the highly acclaimed teen popstresses by teenage boys, what is a girl to do? I feel it is more accepted to express your sexuality today. Spring break is one time I feel people may go overboard. I can understand contests with whipped cream and wet t-shirts, etc., but really some teens go off with one-night stands galore. I also don’t agree with people who make out with someone they just met. I feel there are personal limits and anyone who does not respect your boundaries should be dropped. I know my ex took my precious virginity, and it was 1 of the biggest regrets in my life. After we broke up, I kissed about 5 guys. They were all friends, but I just felt dirty. I could tell none of them really wanted me in the way I wanted them. My current boyfriend was the only one who must have. Girls should not feel pressured to give up sexual favors for someone’s love. I think if someone is a true genuine person, they will love and be friends with you regardless if you are dating or not. Plus they will not talk about sex or other things that will make you uncomfortable, such as drugs/alcohol as well. So what is thought of as sexy and what is slutty? Well everyone’s ideas will differ depending on their own motives. I’m a pretty liberal person, but some things spell trouble to me. Sexy clothes: I wear these and hey so do all my pop girls. I do not feel people should judge for this, because it does not determine one’s character. I feel one must be careful of who they are with when in them however. Make sure you are with people you can trust and partically at least someone who is strong who will protect you in case of an emergency. Alcohol: I feel this is crucial to making sure a woman is in check. Always carry your drink with you and never leave it anywhere. Try to have at least one designated driver especially with strength to watch over everyone in your group and others in the club/bar or wherever it may be, for potential danger of date-rape drugs. Wet T-shirt: I feel this is good, clean fun (no pun intended haha), but I have been in 2 and I feel as long as you have someone there watching over you that nothing happens, it’s safe fun. In fact, my boyfriend saw me in one before we started dating lol. Other contests: The contests I have seen are often pretty innocent, such as moving a golf ball up a guy’s leg under his pants with your mouth, sucking water out of a baby bottle near a guy’s crotch, and clothes switching. I don’t see things like this as immoral, because you’re only young once, and as long as you are responsible it is cool. Talking dirty: I feel this can be fun and satisfying, when done with a trustable person. As *N SYNC would say-a Digital Getdown…this is overlooked and should be encouraged with people you trust as an option to risky sexual behavior. Naughty Pics: Same as with contests, people can see you maybe doing suggestive things, so be careful they don’t fall into the wrong hands. Stripping: I mean this mainly as in a club. I do not have a major problem with this as long as other factors are not included which can be more dangerous. Porn/Prostitution/1 Night Stands: This is the most risky and scariest. Besides the fact of not giving your heart in the form of your body to make someone happy, you do this to everyone without respect for yourself. Plus the risk for diseases and popping birth control pills, leave you with money, but with little value to yourself or your health. Plus it reminds me of when Ariel’s voice was taken from her in “The Little Mermaid”, since it was a part of her. I feel then you give the pleasure only one should be shown to give them your complete trust in that way to everyone. Wedlock: I never have believed in this. I feel it is one of the most sinnly to put your innocent children through and force bad values on them before they are even born and they are the ones who end up suffering in the end, with parents fighting over custody and providing a negative environment. Being too easy: This can get one in trouble by guys possibly spreading rumors and the girl sending herself over the edge perhaps giving up herself physically faster each time. This can lead to trouble fast and can ruin one’s self esteem. Teasing: This can lead a guy on to believing he can get more than you are willing to offer. This can cause violence, rape, attempts to get a girl drunk, and more. Not recommended. Masturbation: This I do recommend for both sexes as a way to explore one’s body to get pleasure and find out what you like. Toys can also enhance this; I feel this is totally safe and should be done to help ease tension and pressure from other people. The key I feel is to be yourself and not let people push your limits as well as your friends. You should know and trust someone before anything happens. You should know the person’s parents before sex I feel to know what type of background the person was brought up around. Plus the person should be trustable if a child pops out or disease is contracted. You should truly know them and their friends as well to see their real personality. The other issue is how to be sensible about your sexuality. Yes I feel it needs to be expressed, being that it helps us live a healthy life. Plus without doing that, we may look elsewhere. Make sure your home life is strong so that you are sure you are not out to replace family love. Make sure the person you want is respectful of you, their friends, family, and the general public. Someone with manners, volunteers, has strong religious beliefs are good signs. I think the other issue now is appearance. Males and females can get insecure easily anymore. I think as long as you are healthy and happy with yourself that should be the only thing to worry about. Yet, plastic surgery is on the rise and the way pop girls and boy bands, magazines, WWF stars and divas, actors/actresses are…we forget about the use of cameras, lighting, the best trainers/cooks, airbrushing, and other tricks to help them look good. Anyone could look good with his or her help! I think we should lay off the judging of this so much. I mean anytime relatives come over, it’s always “you’re so pretty” or “you’re so handsome”. I remember when it came time for graduation from high school, my popular cousin and her mom had a huge party for my cousin…showcasing off such superficial “accomplishments”. These included cheerleading, sports, and my personal favorite..The clear white balloon encasing her Homecoming crown. The whole event was full of pictures, and personally she is not even cute, but it was like a showoff event of being picked by your friends for a crown, being athletic, and doing simple cheering moves. My graduation included pictures, not all blown up like hers, some sports (in which I was not the star player but loved it anyways), awards from when I was a child, as well as my trophy for walking for 24 hours for a charity walk I raise money for every year. I think it is sad what we value in society. How we see our looks and popularity as more important than being a good person and helping others. Well my advice has mostly been shown throughout, but mainly remember to be a beautiful person inside that changes for no one, set your own limits, have a person to protect you in public, carry a cell to call in case of trouble, be sensible, help others less fortunate than you, and love who you are keys to be a sexxy person, which ANYONE can appreciate.  |
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