Proposal 101: from a female prospective..Jul 19 '01 Write an essay on this topic.The Bottom Line Hopefully this will be usefull to someone and help a lucky woman experience an unforgettable proposal. have been proposed to many times, but not once have I been swept off of my feet, as a proposal should do. So, I’m here to help all of you guys out. Here is a female’s prospective on marriage proposals: Proposal #1 from my ex-husband Derrick and me had been together for only a month before he said “I Love you” . On my graduation he gave me a pretty sapphire ring, and that was that. One day, two months after we started dating he simply pulled the ring off my right hand and put it on my left. No question, no romantic moment, nothing. Proposal #2 from my ex-fiancé Chuck and I openly discussed marriage and he one day just said, “Hey, let’s go ring shopping, but don’t worry… I’ll surprise you when I ask.” We picked out the ring, and just a few weeks after we got in a huge fight. To help get me un-irritated at him, he gave me the ring. Once again, there was no traditional “Will you marry me?” , just a “Here, this is for you.” There are a billion more stories, but lets get on with it… What to do when proposing.. *Wait till you have the ring: It will make it so much more exciting. *Make is a complete surprise. Of course make sure that she wants to marry you, but find out by body signals and casual conversation. If you want to make sure for real and ask, then wait awhile after to actually propose. *Go all out. Take her to a nice, romantic restaurant, a sentimental place, or just simply one of those places that make you feel awed. Get on you knee, be romantic. These days tradition is forgotten and “modern-ness” has replaced old-fashioned practices. Believe me, we wont get offended or think you are out of touch with reality…. To be honest, most girls do not care about how much money you spent, we just want it to be special. *Be original and be sincere. *Be yourself. Do not propose at a football game if neither of you are avid football fans. Do not take her to a fancy Italian restaurant if that is just not your scene. If you do you will just be more uncomfortable than you should be, and it will not turn out how you hope. What NOT to do: *Do NOT ask after sex. Every woman knows that a man is feeling his best after sex, but nothing you say will be taken respectfully. Although you may feel its romantic, its not. Not only that, but it will eventually make a woman feel like that is what is really important to you. *Do not be afraid. The worse that could happen is her saying “no”. Although it will sting it will either help the relationship grow, or end it. Wouldn’t you rather know that you both feel the same way and have the same goal? *Understand your partner well. Make sure she is emotionally ready to be “engaged”. If she has a negative outlook on marriage and commitment (like me), then she might not be ready to make that decision *Don’t be casual about your proposal. This is what your partner is going to be repeating not only to all your friends and family, but also for the rest of her life to your children, grandchildren, and even complete strangers. Make a memory that will last her whole life through. *Do not rush into anything. Most people want marriage to last a lifetime. If you want to elope, that’s fine, but think it through first. Think of all the pros and cons, which require you to think past the excitement. *Do not propose because you think you should. Propose because YOU want to. *Do not tell all your buddies or her girlfriends if you want it to be a surprise. They WILL tell. Only tell enough people that you need to, in order to plan it. *Make sure this is what you really want. Doubts are normal, but marriage shouldn’t be a short-term thing, so make sure that you want to wake up next to her for the rest of your life. *Do not worry about looking dumb because you are scared. Us women love seeing men when they stumble through words because they are nervous. It not only shows us that it is sincere, but it is also adorable to see you sweat it. Some Ideas *For you non-romantic types, be romantic for once… propose at the beach during sunset or on a star filled and moonlit night after a walk. *Go to an amazing view *Show up unexpected and just surprise her by getting on your knee. Don’t stop if she’s with friends or around a lot of people, just go for it *Instead of going through a generic speech, tell her exactly why you want to be with her for the rest of your life. Tell her what it is about her that makes you want to grow old with her. Be heartfelt. A pre-written speech should be a guideline or a collection of ideas, what you say should be your own words, straight from your heart *Do not make excuses for the ring. Save up, buy the ring that you want to get her, even if it takes a long time, and be proud of it. That does not mean it needs to be big or expensive. But don’t rush. Do not settle for something you don’t want because you want it sooner. It is going to be the most beautiful thing in the world to her at that moment. A true love will never say “what, this is IT??!!??”. ;o) So, how is MY dream man going to propose???? I don’t know… its going to be a surprise ;o) GOOD LUCK  |
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