What Does your Intuition Say?
Jul 26 '01
The Bottom Line A good self-help book treats the entire person
A Self-Help book can only help if it rings true to your inner person, the one that has all of the answers. Does the book have common sense? The most helpful books that I have read have mostly common sense in them, pointing out obvious things we can do to help ourselves to be better people.
The best self-help book I ever read said that only I hold the key to my happiness, that only I control whether I let things bother me or not. Do I dwell on the negative or find the positive? When my husband comes in and doesn't want to talk, do I take it personally or just assume he has had a bad day? Do I wait for him to speak or gripe about him taking me for granted?
A good self-help book supplies what you need. In simple to understand words that explain how to achieve the results you are seeking and keep the results moving in a positive direction. Exercises are good to have in a self-help book. Practice being positive, exercise relaxation techniques, journaling your thoughts and ideas, exercises are one of the things I look for in a self-help book.
I think the best self-help book I ever read was The Psychology of Romantic Love by Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D. I got it at a yard sale for .50 years and years ago. It still have it on my bookshelf for easy reference. The philosophy of this book is not to depend on that one person to make you happy, no one can make you happy, only you. You have to make your own self happy and then you can share that happiness with your chosen partner. It deals with self-esteem, jealousy, nurturing, mentally growing to where we can be in a loving relationship, the pitfalls of immature love, and selfishness. These are only a few things that are discussed in this book. I have to admit that I haven't mastered all of the components but I recognize the pitfalls when I see them and I can choose how I react, if i am not too angry. LOL
A good self-help book should treat the entire person not only the one symptom that the seeker is seeking help for. Symptoms of depression or anxiety or any other nagging problem may only be a symptom of something bigger maybe self-esteem problems caused these, maybe childhood trauma’s. The entire person has to be treated, changing the way a person thinks, and their reactions to situations, changing their value of themselves, standing back and looking at their lives and assessing what they themselves can do to help themselves.
Final thoughts
Good self-help books should contain the keys to what you are looking for to change yourself, changing your entire being for the better and not just putting a Band-Aid on a symptom or two.
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