Children of all ages
Aug 12 '01
The Bottom Line Its not just the words that you need to get right, but the love and being there too - not matter how old the child.
Five months ago my grandma died of cancer. It all happened very quickly. Too quickly for me to understand really what was going on.
In December last year, my granny was diagnosed with breast cancer and on March of this year she died peacefully in her sleep.
She was the only grandparent i had since the others died before i as born. We saw her on a regular basis about six times a year and then each visit was for at least two weeks. We spent every christmas together and she was always there for every special occasion, whether it be birthdays, plays or concerts. She was the best Granny anyone could have. I would speak to her at least four times a week, and i knew that she was always that extra ear to listen , or that extra shoulder to cry on.
In October last year my parents went to portugal for two weeks and so Granny came down to stay with me, my brother and sister. if i had known that was to be the last time i ever saw her, i would have done things a lot differently. She was a lot more tired and grouchy than she had ever been before and we just put it down to stress of having to look after us and the house.
Well as it turned out, she knew that she had cancer then, but was too afraid to go to the doctors. By the time she did go, the cancer had spread from her breast into her lymphatic system. There was no way she was going to get better, but with radiotherapy and chemotherapy she would be okay for a while to come. But that wasn't to be. She just gave up. She stopped eating and drinking and eventually started sleeping so much she just didn't wake up.
I had never lost anyone before, and although i thought i was prepared and old enough to deal with death and what it was, and what it meant. My parents had talked to me a lot about it , but i dont think anyone can ever prepare someone fo r the huge hole and emptiness they feel.
How i got through the funeral and immediate loss i put down to my family and friends being there for me. At times like this, you don't need words and explanations. Just love and lots of hugs and kisses.
I still think about her all the time, and i know that she is somewhere looking down and thinking of me. I know she is proud of who i am and who i will become. wherever she is, i know she loves me as much as i love her. Thats the most important thing that anyone ever has to remember.
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