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Before slinging mud, ya better consider how much grime will adhere to your persona!Sep 02 '01 (Updated Jul 21 '02) Write an essay on this topic.
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The Bottom Line If a person allows anger to fester up, slings a personal agenda about...it becomes evident that it is a personal vendetta raging versus reporting of abuse.
Throughout the course of epinion time I have witnessed much transpire. But nothing irritates me more than seeing innocent Epinion members ridiculed in public with false accusations or bewildered by members who conceive it their personal agenda to attack a fellow member! Now, don’t misunderstand the opening statement…. I am not sending a resounding approval to abuse the site… Far from it! It is my honest opinion that mudslingers are worse abusers than those whom they are throwing accusations at! When referencing abuse I am not referring to plagiarists or those aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa types of reviews. Those are clear-cut obvious forms of abuse and deserve to have a NH affixed. Not a Good Personality to Strive For Most recently I have watched two epinion travel authors be harassed by a particular member. Further this member has attempted to build a nh and block (WOD) group to support her/his personal agenda. This is wrong, and abusive, at the very least – harassment. I have witnessed such actions transpire in an e-group and in the comment section. The sad thing is that attacks were actually made with regard to the accused members profile and more. Let the record show that the two moderators of the group have refrained from partaking and have now stepped forward to cease such rude occurrences. In addition, I have seen email proof of the mean-spiritedness this person hands out. One needs to realize that many friendships exist in the epinions village, and people share with each other. ~*~In case one the accused was suspected of writing off topic reviews. Seeing that the accused member was an advisor, some took notice. Personally, I admit that while some of the reviews weren’t of particular interest to every epinion member – they were well written and relevant to those traveling within that country. How many times have you wished you had personal insight to travel destinations versus the typical advertisements succumbing your tourist bucks?! That is precisely what this accused author was producing, and this was clearly being observed by many. But the mudslinger took the agenda to the point of challenging members publicly that assessed anything other than a NH to supposed abusers reviews. I am happy to report that the attacked person has withstood through the slinging attack and maintained the majority of his/her composure. Not so much can be said for the accuser. History repeats itself! ~*~Case two. In this instance the accused had deleted and reposted some reviews. Although his/her reviews initially were not high quality – let’s remember this person was new to epinions - this 'new member' didn't think he/she was doing wrong. The accused is very knowledgeable with regard to travel and has high interest in computers. So this person had spent some time looking at other profiles. Thinking it was okay (‘cause others had it) they mistakenly had a site meter (yes, those are against TOS) on their profile page. Well, rather than email this member – mudslinger comments upon a latest review, and didn't bother to remove comments after site meter was removed. Instead she/he went to egroup and posted a complaint that the 'new member' had removed the site meter? Clearly this shows a personal agenda is in place, and it is not one of helping fellow members. Let me mention at this point that the said accused had brought his/her writing quality up by leaps and bounds. So now, mud slinger accuses this writer of never having taken the trip because the accused supposedly mentioned a mode of transportation that didn’t service said destination. Well folks, mudslinger was so busy with her/his own agenda that they failed to realize that in fact this said mode of transportation does exist! In fact the accused produced a mug from the very cruise adventure. This situation too was wrong! In email correspondence I got to know the accused and realized he/she was a travel enthusiast eager to share his/her travel experience and was very hurt with how mudslinger had treated him/her. All that new member desired was some positive guidance so he/she could succeed. However this person was amazed at the cruelty being dished onto them. Thankfully through email conversation they realized that not everyone in this community is out to slash. Unfortunately - in the long of it - the person that stands to incur the most damage is the mudslinger. When this person allows anger to fester up, slings her/his personal agenda about – it becomes evident that it is a personal vendetta raging not a genuine reporting of abuse. Thus leaving the mud slinger fairly grimy! People, when building your personality on line please consider that what you leave in comments and in postings outside of the epinion community really do affect the perception others have toward you. It is not hard to recognize that a person has crossed the line of wanting cleanliness on the site to outright persecuting members whose heart intent is okay. Let us all be kind when commenting, supporting of each other, and remember that behind every profile is a PERSON! The golden rule is applicable online too! Do to others as you would want them to do to you……. Happening To You? Minor misunderstandings will happen. The written word may be perceived in a manner different than the author intended. Sometimes what you think may have been a personal attack is not. First try emailing the commenting person for clarification. I highly recommend keeping a hard copy and disc copy of email correspondence. This will allow later reference, turn over to epinions, or your local law authority. Be certain to email epinions abuse – when necessary – regarding abrasive emails, comments, or personal name mention. Send them copies of the emails received and so forth. They are proactive, and even when it occasionally appears they may not be listening… have no fear, they are responsive. Refrain From Retaliation This one is hard, I realize! We are emotional beings, and us that manifest sensitivity will take attacks such as mentioned harder than others will. If you find yourself succumbing to a brutal attack – offer an apology to those affected. An “I’m Sorry!” goes a long ways! And, will allow you to recapture your persona. I have witnessed a few members act out in manners abnormal when brought under attack. Sometimes the fragile human spirit caves when attacked. It’s okay… just move beyond the situation and don’t partake in the mud slinging. Kindness Let’s be kind to our fellow epinion members. It really helps to take a few steps back and realize that this is one of many online sites. Perhaps it is time for a break if you are finding a need to attack others. Of course, there are those select few that are just mean-spirited. Well, their colors show. If you know you have ‘hurt’ someone, why not take a moment now to apologize and move forward??!! I want to have fun here, and it breaks my heart to see some of the attacks that have occurred! Hugs to the Good ones and Thank you for your Support! Hugs, Love, and Blessings~ © 2001 Lisa_J  |
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