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25 Years...of Wedded Bliss....well sort of :)Nov 04 '01 Write an essay on this topic.
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It is amazing to me how quickly things can change. My hubby (Payso) and I recently celebrated our 25th Wedding Anniversary. It was a quiet, and rather uneventful celebration, and yet it is one the greatest blessings that we have received in a very long time. When we married My Michael became an instant father to my two daughters. Not only did he become their step-father he became their Dad! He has always been the man that has had an impact on their lives..he has been the one to be there for the girls whenever they have needed something. They have some contact with their bio dad...when they initiate it, but for the most part, 'Michael' is their Dad. Together we had another three children, with our second one being a stillborn. He was my rock, and strong...and rather left out when people would ask how I was doing??? He had lost a baby too, but others would show concern for me and my health and sadness. I felt sad for him at those times. My Michael was a rock for me once again as I lost my Dad, and then when we took care of my Mom in our home. Never did he grumble about the changes having Mom in our home made. Instead he took as good a care of her as I did. He was strong and willing to do whatever was necessary...being more of her son than a son-in-law. Losing Mom was as much pain for him, as it was for me...but once again, the attention was on me and my emotions. Once again I felt sad for him...but grieved for a very long time at the loss of my beautiful Mom. He stood by and loved and hugged me, and let me cry. The Move A year ago the decision was made to move away from Southern California, where we had both grown up, and move to Wisconsin, to be nearer to our grown children and our grandchildren. I believe that this decision was a much harder one for My Michael than it was for me....his family is still lives there..his ailing parents live with his sister, but he is not close enough to drop in and visit them when he wants. I'm sure that God was taking care of us, however, when we made this move. We have not had health insurance in a very long time...but when Michael got a job here in Wisconsin one of the blessings that came with it was health insurance for him. Little did we know at the time, that we would be putting that insurance to use very quickly. Michael's Health After having a few headaches, and then blindness in one eye Michael went to an eye Doctor assuming that glasses was all that was needed. His blood pressure was skyrocketing and he was admitted into the hospital immediately. The phone call that I received from him made changes in our lives that we had never expected. Expecting to get his blood pressure under control, and being released from the hospital seemed like all that would happen. After a CT Scan, the shocking news came from a very hesitant Dr. My Michael had a Pituitary Tumor....What??? What did he say??? A tumor?? A brain tumor?? Well, not really a brain tumor, as it is located at the base of the brain....Whoa, this was not at all supposed to be happening. It took a very short time and a lot of visits to a wonderful hospital in Marshfield Wisconsin until Michael was undergoing a very long surgery. Amazingly, his recuperation was only about six weeks, and things were pretty much back to normal. Until..... His next MRI showed that about half of his softball sized tumor was still there. Oh my gosh, we had not expected this. Another surgery, quick recuperation again...and here we are. He is back to work, and our fingers are crossed that when he goes for another MRI on Dec. 11 that he will be given a clean bill of health. So What Does All of This Have to do with the Topic? I decided that in order to write about What Should I Know About Marriage? clearly the easiest way to express my knowledge of the topic was to relate what My Michael and I have been through together. Truly, what I think people should know about marriage is that it is a partnership that has many, many ups and downs and yet holding onto each other, family and God are the key elements to a successful marriage. We have weathered together; addictions, disappointments, job losses, financial disasters, deaths, four teen-agers, ex's, lies, empty nest, major moves, ill health, car accidents, SAHM & working Mom, laughter, friendship, and LOTS and LOTS of Love! & as I write this, a phone call from my youngest child asking if he can move back in...temporarily...here we go again. lol What I have learned about marriage, is that it takes two committed people to make it work...and if you have that, together you can get through anything. Review #100 I have taken a while to write another review, not because of Epinions dropping our penny a hit, but because it felt as if it needed to be a special review. It needed to be more than my usual fare...although I love reviewing products, it just seemed like #100 had to come from the heart. God Bless to all who read...and to all of the married couples too!  |
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