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Very... (Reply to this comment)
by lammet
moving in its way, an excellent piece. Well done.
-Vasilis
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Jan 04 '07
5:26 am PST
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Perfection (Reply to this comment)
by pranapana
I so get you on the parent perfection comment. I have a mother who pretty much tries to be perfect instill in us kids that she is perfect and we should be emulating her.
I suppose on the surface we all look like pretty good kids (coincidentally also 3 girls and 1 boy), but then again she doesn't know how much we enjoy sneaking out of the house while she's sleeping to cull the local stray kitten population. Well, not strictly true. My brother prefers the puppies, but he puts up with the kittens for our sakes.
Now I just know I am going to rot in hell for this comment! (Sorry mum!)
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Nov 21 '03
7:28 pm PST
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Wow. (Reply to this comment)
by Horswispr
Some serious stuff. Given the state of the legal system, I was worried as I read about the baseball bat incident. I thought the next paragraph was going to be about you writing from your jail cell, while the rapist was living handsomely in the Chicago suburbs off of his "excessive force" settlement.
Raising kids is tough. I'm a big advocate of behaving as you'd want your kids to behave. I wouldn't care much much if my teenager drank and chewed a bit (I drink a bit and chew a bit), so long as he had interests and did well enough in school.
One of my earliest (and favorite) Epinions was about Kids and Violence, and touched on some of the things you address here. I hope you'll check it out:
http://www.epinions.com/kifm-review-3440-324056A-3932FB4B-prod5
One typo I caught in your piece: It says "steel" where it should say "steal."
Thanks for getting me to thinking.
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Jan 20 '03
6:51 pm PST
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Wow! (Reply to this comment)
by randfan
Amazing! I am in awe of you Chuck!
~Meg
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Jan 20 '03
2:18 pm PST
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Thanks for the simple reassurance (Reply to this comment)
by fountain-head
My kids have not all left home yet ... although two (of 3) have one foot out the door ... and I believe I could probably trump-you for mistakes-made.
But my instincts tell me that you're right ... just - being - there is probably enough.
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Jan 17 '03
11:43 am PST
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Being a Dad is one of the most difficult jobs in the world (Reply to this comment)
by glomarrone
Hi,
Being a mom is the other. Sounds like your daughter is right - you are a hero. You not only saved her from harm but other girls, as well. No matter how old your children get, you will always be their dad.
The job is a lot of work. long hours, plenty of responsibility and very low pay but the rewards are great. You get to be called dad and if you are lucky you get to be their hero and make a difference in their live, as you did. You earned your title, Dad.
Gloria
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Jan 17 '03
6:02 am PST
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Being a Dad... (Reply to this comment)
by jcrismon
is never easy; I appreciate them more and more each day. Your children are blessed (as you are, I'm sure). Loved this glimpse into your life.
Jennifer
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Jan 16 '03
7:23 pm PST
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An awesome read! (Reply to this comment)
by katybrighteyes
Stockholder, I really enjoyed this...the first of your reviews that I believe I've ever read! "Getting to know" someone has never been so much fun. :o)
Glad you whacked that monster behind the china cabinet! God, what a scary situation. Lorace is right on the money with her comment below. These days the jerk might have gotten a much lighter sentence.
Sorry to hear about your loser son-in-law. There's one in every family, I'm afraid. Well, not all of 'em are son-in-laws, but each family does have its own pain in the butt. (I won't tell you who the loser is in OUR family... hahaha!)
I truly enjoyed this story of your life, as well as your wonderful, fatherly wisdom. Think I'll send this to my cousin now. She'll love it!
Katy
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Jan 09 '03
4:00 pm PST
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My Hero! LOL (Reply to this comment)
by lorace
Hey, always be on MY side, okay? This was very moving and exciting and shows a lot of your true colors which you try to hide sometimes with humor.
Don't know how I missed reading this until now, but it was worth the wait.
You know what, though? With the law the way it is today, I wouldn't be surprised if a bat-wielder in the same situation wouldn't be charged with assault because he infringed on the "rights" of the rapist/murderer! LOL But we had one like this recently out here and that's exactly what happened.
Ah, Justice, where is your sting?
Thanks, Chuck, for a neat review,
Lorace
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Jul 23 '02
5:20 pm PDT
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Re: sweet (Reply to this comment)
by stockholder
Fantastic might me stretching things a bit, but thank you.
I'm not sure if anyone should wish to have different parents, if your dad did something horrible, I'm sorry. I think your fathers faults could have made you a better/stronger person.
S. Holder
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May 12 '02
10:34 am PDT
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sweet (Reply to this comment)
by jankp
Kudos to you for being such a fantastic father. Wish you'd been mine.
Jan
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May 11 '02
10:24 am PDT
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Re: yup (Reply to this comment)
by stockholder
You will do an outstanding job. If everyone had their first children at 44 this world would be a far better place.
Thanks, for reading and the nice comment.
S. Holder
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May 10 '02
12:34 pm PDT
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Well done (Reply to this comment)
by jo.com
Some really good thoughts..and thanks for your comments on my stepfamily review. I did leave you a comment there. I'm off to see my baby graduate from college! The last one 1100 miles away so I'll be gone for a week. Thanks for reading and I'm enjoying your writing. jo
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May 10 '02
3:22 am PDT
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yup (Reply to this comment)
by garym
Love that sweet spot! A line drive to the groin may have been in order as well.
Great review. At age 44 I´m finally going to be a father, twins no less. I like your style and hope I can follow your advice.
Later,
Agent Lithium
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May 07 '02
1:00 pm PDT
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Re: ! (Reply to this comment)
by stockholder
Thank you, your comments brought a tear of joy to my eyes. I hope nothing this drastic has happened in your life.
I also enjoy your unique writing style.
Talk to you soon.
S. Holder
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May 06 '02
10:34 pm PDT
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by dedemw
You might admit to making some mistakes, but I can tell you that most kids- today esp. could only be lucky enough to have a dad like u : )
Great story, advice, and lesson. Also nice swing on the nuthead. I could have used you and your baseball bat at many times.
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May 06 '02
5:44 pm PDT
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Re: Thank you (Reply to this comment)
by stockholder
It is your choice to confront or not, but just make sure your daughter knows your on her side. Don't get me wrong I have given out discipline, but I just think having the trust and confidence of you child is more important than drinking a few beers or steeling from a store. ALL. Children go through fazes, but parents are for life.
S. Holder
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May 05 '02
4:39 pm PDT
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Thank you (Reply to this comment)
by cathyjones
I think if 4 parents came to me and told me Lauren was drinking, etc. I would have to confront her. But looking back, my parents showed me a lot of trust and I turned out okay. I hope I can remember your advice and let Lauren grow up to be the person she is meant to be, not someone I want her to be. Who knows, maybe she will be both! Thanks for the words of wisdom!
Cathy
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May 04 '02
9:00 pm PDT
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Very Sound advice: (Reply to this comment)
by BrendaMetcalf
Not where is that damn Most Helpful button...
Agent Lady Scissorhands
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May 04 '02
6:07 am PDT
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Re: Enjoyed the review (Reply to this comment)
by stockholder
My review is listed under Advice On Fatherhood.
I guess someone at Epinions thinks fathers should Lock and Guard their children. Kinda opposite of my advice.
That is strange.
S. Holder
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May 04 '02
2:23 am PDT
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Enjoyed the review (Reply to this comment)
by tiasmom
I just thought it was a bit weird that this is listed under locks and guards. Wonder why it is?
Tami
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May 03 '02
9:49 pm PDT
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Re: Re: Errr... (Reply to this comment)
by 4-1-1
Okay... I was just asking. Beating a dude about the head with a baseball bat would be a pretty freaky/scary thing. Well, having a wanted rapist in the house would also be a pretty scary thing.
Best,
Tom / 4-1-1
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May 03 '02
12:02 am PDT
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Re: Errr... (Reply to this comment)
by stockholder
I would not involve my family in a make believe story. I know this is an amazing story, coming from a not so amazing guy, but it is the most shocking and real thing that has ever happened to me. Don't think things this bad don't happen, because that's when it happens to you.
S. Holder
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May 02 '02
11:43 pm PDT
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Errr... (Reply to this comment)
by 4-1-1
Is that story about beating the dude with a bat for real. I read this whole story, and I'm thinking that bit about the rapist in the house is a bit of... hmmm... story telling. Interesting story, though.
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May 02 '02
11:27 pm PDT
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