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You’re Wasting Your Life Away Little GirlJun 01 '02 Write an essay on this topic.
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The Bottom Line The best daddy is the one that supports and loves his children unconditionally.
There once was a time that I would have been easily described as the queen of Epinion Editorials. I have written many editorials in the Kids & Family category here at Epinions in the past. I have always enjoyed sharing my experiences with others in hopes that someone would possibly find a little door opening for them. Maybe if I was really fortunate, I could touch a heart along the way. If this review touches just one heart, I have served the purpose I am aiming for. Little Girl Spills It All I have never been really close to my father. He was a long distance truck driver when I was a small child and it was normally just mom and I. I can remember each afternoon getting off the school bus at a neighbors house and staying until mom was able to come pick me up. Dad would come home between loads and bring souvenirs for mom and I. The gifts were always nice but what I would have enjoyed more, was time with my daddy. I understand why daddy was gone all the time and that he was earning a living for us but that doesn’t change the fact that I rarely saw him. When he was home it was usually to eat, sleep an head back out OTR (over the road). Daddy had an accident many years ago and damaged his spine and since has done everything from owning a car lot to being an independent dispatcher for a large well established trucking company. No matter what his career of the day was, mom and I always knew we could count on him to support us. It boils down to more than support though, doesn’t it? Its been said more times than none to us all, “Money Isn’t Everything”. If you don’t have something in life that is of more value to you than money and the things you can buy, what value is your life anyway? The Story Continues… We continue to drift further apart. Earlier last year I really disappointed my dad with a choice I made in my life. It was a decision that I had to make and it was the right choice for me at that point in my life. Without taking my current situation or feelings in consideration my dear ole’ dad disowned me. Yeah, that’s right I was told that I was no longer his daughter in his eyes. To all of you dear dads out there, if you want to cause pain to your child that will last a life time, just toss out those words and well, your mission is complete. While someone may be able to forgive, the agony and pain that is inflicted on the heart will never be forgotten. I will never forget when my dad told this to me and now today he told me that I am wasting my life away. Why? Well you see, five years ago I chose to come home and raise my two boys (2 and 9months at the time) myself. I turned in a two week notice and pulled my children from daycare. Almost a year after I opted to become a stay at home mom, my third son was born. I have ventured into both worlds as a working mother and a stay at home mom and I am here to tell you that neither is easy. I made the decision to stay home with my boys and I have never regretted my choice and am willing to bet anyone a million dollars I never will. I feel fortunate that I am able to stay at home with my children and would never call it a waste of my life. My three boys do keep me busy and they are often mischievous and into things they shouldn’t be. While I may not be the perfect mother, I am the only mommy my three little men know and they don’t seem too disappointed. I will never be perfect but I will always strive to do what is best for my boys. It troubles my heart to know my dad thinks that what I am doing with my life is a waste while I stay at home and raise his grandchildren myself. However, what my children think is more important to me. Daddy wasn’t around for me when I was a child and maybe that is one of the main reasons that I want so badly to be home for my boys. I know there is much more to it than just staying home but how about the trips to the park, the tickle fests, going for an ice cream cone, swimming or even just cuddling while watching Shrek for the umptenth time. Lets not forget all the time I spend with them teaching them new things about life lessons and God Forbid we forget the alphabet and counting. My children will remember mommy being there, talking with them and building a mother and son relationship that is filled with unconditional love. My Plea To The Daddys That Have Stopped By Despite how mad you may become or how much you disagree with a choice your child makes (minor or adult) ALWAYS remember that what you say may be forgiven one day but memories are left behind forever. Memories are not always simple and pleasant, instead they can spell grief, pain and agony for many. Always tell your son/daughter that you love them. Don’t stop there though. You need to show them too. Showing affection is important but listening and showing support is one major aspect of showing your child love. You don’t have to agree with their choices or lifestyle to respect them. Yes I do understand that things are often said that are not meant during a heated argument, but why say something you will end up regretting in the long run if you don’t mean it anyway. Be a real daddy and show your child what the meaning of unconditional love is all about. Little boys and girls often refer to their daddy as a hero. Don’t you want to be remembered as the hero when your time on this earth has come and gone?  |
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