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Re: wow... (Reply to this comment)
by wordwalker
I'm sorry it took me so long to reply. You have been through quite an ordeal and learned a great deal, I think; thank you on Ed's behalf for your concern and appreciation for him.
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Jan 17 '06
12:00 am PST
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wow... (Reply to this comment)
by firstcontact21
I've been absent from Epinions for almost two years now, and I'm saddened to hear this news. Although I don't communicate with many people on Epinions, when I am active I do try to read a lot of articles and I always loved reading ed's. It's great to know there are people who will keep his page active and it seems he had and will continue to have a profound impact on the Epinions community.
As a fairly young man, I've never really faced death until just over a year ago, when I lost my Father to a debilitating stroke at the age of 80 in October, 2004. I miss him terribly so. And in 2005 my Mother found out that she has 2 major blockages in the arteries in her throat, on the right and left side, are 90% blocked. She had a surgery in August on the right side to clear it, and will be having a second surgery to tackle the left side sometime in the next few months. These are very dangerous surgeries to perform and there is a lot of risk attached to them - even though she has probably the best surgeons in the province looking after her, it was stressful going through it, especially when she was in recovery for longer than most people. Before we did that, we redid our wills and estate and that was very odd, very strange. Planning for these things is important but part of you doesn’t want to do it, part of you screams out, no, this isn’t necessary because nothing is going to ever happen.
Needless to say, this has made me re-examine my own life, and place my friends and family at a higher level than I had before.
All the best to Ed and his family, always,
- Steve
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Jan 05 '06
11:14 pm PST
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Re: WW: (Reply to this comment)
by wordwalker
Thank you for letting me know in this way! I've been pretty much downed by back problems for the past few days, but they seem to be easing and I was starting to worry. Love you!
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Oct 20 '05
11:29 pm PDT
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WW: (Reply to this comment)
by ed_grover
I have major problems with my e-mail. It will be fixed soon(er) or that other one, later, I guess. If I have more problems I will send you a snail mail.
Ed
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Oct 18 '05
1:14 pm PDT
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Hearts and Minds (Reply to this comment)
by DAnneC
Wordwalker, thank you for sharing this information with the community.
Ed, thank you for sharing with us your heart and mind on so many important issues. The intellectual companionship you offer in your writings is one I value, as are your dignity and humor in all things. These are qualities that are appreciated by many of your friends, qualities that will continue to enrich all our lives. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to tell you this now, if we have failed to do so in the past. As in other aspects of your life, you give us an example to follow and you raise the bar, so to speak--no small legacy, that.
Darla
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Aug 16 '05
1:59 am PDT
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Thank You! (Reply to this comment)
by ruby950
You are a dear for writing this update. I along, with the others, am so distraught by this news. I will communicate with Ed directly.
Deborah~
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Aug 09 '05
3:56 pm PDT
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I came, I saw, I read . . . (Reply to this comment)
by ed_grover
and I was so pleased. Thank you all for the wonderful comments. Since I last told anyone that I had been diagnosed with incurable cancer of the lungs and lower spine, I've had some radiation to relieve the pain and am getting palliative care to make me comfortable.
I've made the decision NOT to go forward with any chemotherapy on the basis that it will only hold off the inevitable and I will die anyway. I saw my chemo doctor on Monday, August 1 gave him my decision which he respected as do my other doctors. I recently found out I have until sometime in the spring of 2006.
As things stand now I will remain at home and get home hospice care from a heath agency until I can no longer go on. THEN and only then will I get admitted to inpatient hospice care at the hospital. Right now I am ambulatory (I have a cane) and my pain is well regulated. I've lost lots of weight but am working on gaining some back. My general mental outlook is okay and I have a very good support group of friends who help, I get help from an agency that is part of the Milwaukee County Department on Aging.
There's all kinds of home health help, a cleaning person once a week and more when I need it. I will be getting home nursing care on a daily basis and that will eventually go up to twice a day if and when needed. After that, I'll be admitted to inpatient hospice for my final months, weeks, days and that will be IT!
I want to say thanks to Wordwalker and Pogomom for their friendship and concern.
If you haven't had a chance, I hope you can take a look at some of the things I wrote supporting LGBT issues, recovery (AA) and Aging issues. I would like to see my reviews remain to help anyone who needs to read them, even if they are just trying to understand and accept.
As far as I'm concerned, my life has been a wonderful ride and I've had a great time writing here at Epinions. Stephen_Murray told me I was witty and I didn't believe him. I see some of you think otherwise. Thanks for that and I'll be sure to deliver any messages can.
Thanks, be well and my fondest regards to all of you.
Ed Grover
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Aug 09 '05
7:14 am PDT
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Oh dear. (Reply to this comment)
by millinocket
I'm so saddened. But I will write to Ed, someone who has my utmost respect and admiration, and do my best to be neither mushy nor gushy.
Thanks much for the info -
Sue
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Aug 07 '05
1:31 pm PDT
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Re: Thank you to everyone who commented... (Reply to this comment)
by drdevience
Dr. D, I shall let you know if by any chance I never do hear from pogomom again (but I suspect she's only on vacation). Keeping Ed's reviews available will be the crucial job in the -- eventual -- future.
I'm sure she's prolly just on vacation. I'm here if you need me, in any capacity.
Doc
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Aug 07 '05
8:05 am PDT
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oh my gosh I had (Reply to this comment)
by jo.com
no idea. I've been away for a month. But it's weird. I don't know what I was looking at - my trust list maybe - or some other list and wondered where he was because I hadn't seen any reviews from him. Thanks so much for letting us know. jo
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Aug 06 '05
4:50 am PDT
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Thank you to everyone who commented... (Reply to this comment)
by wordwalker
... and also to the many who have emailed Ed directly. Some have also nominated him to the Hall of Fame!
Dr. D, I shall let you know if by any chance I never do hear from pogomom again (but I suspect she's only on vacation). Keeping Ed's reviews available will be the crucial job in the -- eventual -- future.
Jan, Ed likes the write-off idea in itself but thinks it is too soon for that. I'll try him again in a few.
All: I promise current information on Ed even as he has promised it to me. But don't be shy about emailing him yourselves; he enjoys hearing from you.
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Aug 04 '05
8:42 pm PDT
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Me too. (Reply to this comment)
by patricknjacob
I wasn't aware either. I have noticed that he hasn't been around lately. I have been just too caught up in my own mess of life to take the time to email him. I am really sorry for that. I know better. Please pass on to him my wishes for things to go with with ease as he he takes this last lap.
~Melinda
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Aug 03 '05
1:55 pm PDT
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Re: Not mushy and gushy... (Reply to this comment)
by remnjava
Mary Ellen,
this is a request I've had for many I've known would be passing to the other side, but I've never had the guts to say it. I would like him to send my best to my mom, dad, and late husband.
Thanks,
Carol
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Aug 03 '05
11:29 am PDT
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I'm (Reply to this comment)
by theresaro
I'm in shock I'm sure as so many others. I think anything I woud say would be mushy. I'm just stunned . I thank you so much for letting us know of this sad news. We love you Ed.
Teri
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Aug 03 '05
6:03 am PDT
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Thanks... (Reply to this comment)
by Don_Krider
...for posting this. Ed and I have shared a WOT for years, but I wasn't aware of his current condition. As soon as I can come up with some worthy words, I'll email him. He's always been one of the kinder, most supportive members of the Epinions' community, so I'm rather stunned at this news.
Don
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Aug 01 '05
9:06 pm PDT
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I haven't been around much (Reply to this comment)
by Penguinlady
I've recently started hanging out here again after an absence of some months. So I figured that I'd just lost track of some people. This is the first I've known of Ed's illness.
A man of intelligence, grace, and wit, topped by a wonderful way with words. His posts on house-sitting for friends in the country last summer and his enjoyment of the birds and nature around him will remain with me for a long time.
I hope he sees these comments so he'll know how much he's valued here by the people fortunate enough to call him "friend." We are all the poorer for his absence here.
Margaret
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Aug 01 '05
6:16 pm PDT
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Oh dear... (Reply to this comment)
by serc
I'm so sorry to hear this. And to avoid being mushy-gushy, I'm going to offer some random hospital advice to Ed: don't be afraid to boss the nurses around. ;) I'll be thinking of Ed...
-Sara R-C
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Aug 01 '05
8:20 am PDT
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oh my god... (Reply to this comment)
by MumMumMum
I didn't know, i've been away so long.....oh, my heart hurts....i've always felt Ed to be such a kind, wonderful man with a very full heart, and I've often imagined sitting with him, in his kitchen, eating soup and discussing everything from books to authors to his incredibly fascinating life...
the tears flow
Bev
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Aug 01 '05
6:07 am PDT
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:-( (Reply to this comment)
by jankp
That's so sad to hear, ww. I'll send him an ecard definitely. It'd be really nice to have a write-off in his honor like we did for hardtoplease, don't you think?
Jan
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Jul 31 '05
11:12 pm PDT
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Ed, (Reply to this comment)
by snpmurray
you lovely man. See you on the other side my brother.
Hearts love, you've given me much
Sean
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Jul 31 '05
9:28 pm PDT
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yup (Reply to this comment)
by garym
or nope.
It is a sad day.
Gary
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Jul 31 '05
8:18 pm PDT
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I never met with Ed... (Reply to this comment)
by mothermeatloaf
...but even without having met him, I feel badly about his situation. I wish him whatever serenity God reserves for the most ill-afflicted and I wish him peace of mind and heart.
Excellent reason to break your silence, Ms. Wordwalker.
~ Mike
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Jul 31 '05
1:13 pm PDT
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Ed (Reply to this comment)
by ifif1938
I just don't know how I'm
going to find the perfect colognes from your dresser to get for my hubby...Or the best in books about French designers.
You and your reviews mean so much to me and I will always cherish them and thoughts of your delightful comments to me over the years..I only wish I had gone to that meet and greet with Doc, you were the main reason I wanted to go
My prayers are with you..
Love, Barbara
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Jul 31 '05
10:55 am PDT
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ed grover as I have always said and feel, (Reply to this comment)
by Moppysl
ed grover I love you.
Devotedly,
Moppy
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Jul 31 '05
7:39 am PDT
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I'll try not to be mushy and gushy- (Reply to this comment)
by matthewn
I put my fist in my mouth when I read here that Ed had cancer. I don't know what to say really to be honest. Nor am I good with words at times or always good at expressing the way I feel all the time.
I've always enjoyed Ed and his views and comments he left me, even though we didn't always agree eye-to-eye. I will be thinking of you, Ed.
Peace
Matt
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Jul 31 '05
5:35 am PDT
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I had no idea (Reply to this comment)
by mridula
and I appreciate your update. I interacted with him over a few comments and emails and I enjoyed those conversations about Goa, about India and a few other things.
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Jul 31 '05
4:28 am PDT
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Sad, sad, sad (Reply to this comment)
by pambo
Wordwalker, thanks for the update. I'm so sorry to hear this but so glad people will work to keep him alive on epinions. Please let me know if there's any way we can assist on the site.
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Jul 31 '05
3:51 am PDT
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Not mushy and gushy... (Reply to this comment)
by pantazis5
Hey Ed,
When you see my mother...FJBPAB...tell her who you are. You never met her in person, but online she loved you a lot. Make sure you finally meet ok? Also...tell her I am still waiting to win the megabucks will ya....
Thanks...and I hope you dont mind if I pray for you.
Mary Ellen
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Jul 30 '05
5:19 pm PDT
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Ed (Reply to this comment)
by skbreese
Thank you for the update on Ed. It sounds like he has a lot of peace about his situation, and I'm glad to hear that. I miss his reviews, but will always have fond memories of him. Sheila
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Jul 30 '05
1:22 pm PDT
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hey there wordie... (Reply to this comment)
by sleeper54
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It seems that only . . .'problems', feline or human', can bring you back to the site. Our loss.
Ed was one of my first 'trusters' here on the site. I have always found his words and actions worthy targets to attempt to emulate.
Thanks for taking the point on informing the community about these circumstances. It is appreciated.
...tom...
"I don't believe in an afterlife, so I don't have to spend my whole life fearing hell, or fearing heaven even more. For whatever the tortures of hell, I think the boredom of heaven would be even worse."
—Isaac Asimov
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Jul 30 '05
12:02 pm PDT
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