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August 3
by patricknjacob | Aug 03 '05
I don't have a bottom line -- I have a bottomless pit of hurt.

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Re: Grief comes into . . . (Reply to this comment)
by patricknjacob
Thanks ... Melinda
Oct 03 '05
2:58 pm PDT

Grief comes into . . . (Reply to this comment)
by gungian

. . . every life and we each deal with it in our own way.

Expressing your pain with the written word may be just what you need right now. I know that it is often my refuge of choice.

Your Mom is at peace and I am certain that she would wish to ease your mind.

Write On!
Oct 02 '05
9:41 am PDT

Again (Reply to this comment)
by patricknjacob
Thanks you guys for your support. Today is my father's 76th birthday. He is still with us, but I never had a good father/daughter relationship with him.

~Melinda
Sep 26 '05
4:12 pm PDT

Being a caregiver........ (Reply to this comment)
by Susie-34668
I see clients like your Mother every day. I know this doesn't help the pain, but you are not alone. Please email me if you need to talk about it.

Hugs,
Susie.
susie.34668@gmail.com
Sep 21 '05
7:14 am PDT

it is a bottomless pit... (Reply to this comment)
by pantazis5
I know it well.

Mary Ellen
Sep 03 '05
3:47 am PDT

Sometimes (Reply to this comment)
by theresaro
You do have to write it out and it's supposed to help. I know the feeling so well but it's so hard to write when my head is going so much faster then I could even talk never mind write.

Take Care of yourself girl and hope your feeling a little better now.

Teri
Sep 01 '05
5:58 pm PDT

I just want to thank you all. (Reply to this comment)
by patricknjacob
You have been great. Thank you so much for your support.

~Melinda
Aug 22 '05
4:47 pm PDT

so sorry about your mother (Reply to this comment)
by pilarzmom
Losing a parent is the pits. I lost both of mine in the same year. (just 2 years ago). In fact, 8/24 is the date my dad passed away. In later years I was closer to him. Not sure why my mom and I drifted a part. Still loved her but just wasn't the same.

I still hurt, too.

Peffy
Aug 20 '05
8:26 pm PDT

I understand... (Reply to this comment)
by pantazis5
all too well how much you miss your Mom...and I know I will never stop missing my best friend either. When they say time heals all wounds, I disagree. But I guess it does get a little easier to live with. Somehow....

Mary Ellen
Aug 15 '05
5:12 am PDT

(((hugs))) (Reply to this comment)
by Don_Krider
Melinda,

No one is ever gone when you keep their memory alive. The love you shared with your mom is something you should remember and cherish, as you obviously do.

Thanks for sharing your feelings here. I'll say a prayer for you.

Don
Aug 09 '05
2:43 pm PDT

Dear Melinda, (Reply to this comment)
by gaelkm
I can feel your pain and how much you miss your Mom. God Bless....gael
Aug 08 '05
2:40 pm PDT

Thanks everyone. (Reply to this comment)
by patricknjacob
Your comments really help. ~Melinda
Aug 04 '05
4:21 pm PDT

I know..... (Reply to this comment)
by kamel622

....how difficult losing a Mom is. The anniversary date is always a hard one, but the loss is there everyday.

Your Mom sounds like she was a fantastic woman. Isn't it such a blessing to have a great Mom? Mine was fantastic too and I still talk to her, even though she has been gone for 6 years now.

God Bless and a BIG HUG too........kath
Aug 04 '05
5:35 am PDT

I totally understand though (Reply to this comment)
by jo.com
didn't lose my dad to this disease. I watched him die for 1 month in ICU and they never knew what was wrong. 9 years ago this month and I still see him everywhere; picture him on my couch and miss him terribly. The hardest parts is his not being here to see his adored grandchildren doing so well. My sympathies to you. jo
Aug 04 '05
4:03 am PDT

Hi Melinda (Reply to this comment)
by three_ster
"I don’t even know why I am writing this"

You are writing this, because you want to remind people of what a great person your mother was, and at the same time, to show her that you are still thinking about her, and loving her.

I am glad you took the moment to share, because now we are able to know your mother a little bit better through you.

Thank you for taking the time to write what I am sure was very tough to put into words.

Know you are loved, and God bless.

--Ryan
Aug 03 '05
3:20 pm PDT

Yep... (Reply to this comment)
by cr01
anniversaries certainly are tough going. Hang on in there, and try to remember the good times Melinda.

Take care

Chris
Aug 03 '05
3:06 pm PDT