I met my husband on eharmony!
Written: Mar 19 '10
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To be truthful I do not remember how long I have had my eharmony account. I know that it had to have been 3 years at least since I got bold and decided to go online to fill out my profile there, answering questions about myself, and seeing what would happen.
And I would have to say that for at least 2 years, I found the experience quite lacking. Yes, I matched lots of men, but because I was not shy about putting my entire profile out there with the truth about how I have a disabled son and my true interests, most men would close the match with some kind of “reason”.
Another reason why I found the service so lacking was the cost. I don’t have a clue what it costs now, but after each little “free weekend”, they would offer a “deal” of x amount of money per month which I still found quite expensive.
Now with all of this negativity, you may be wondering why this is a positive review. Well, that’s because in July 2009, my opinion of eharmony and my life changed forever.
On July 2, 2009, eharmony had a free weekend. I decided to get brave and see who matched. So, I saw some gentlemen who looked rather interesting including one who lived in a neighboring town about 25 minutes from me.
Well, that one gentleman who lived close to me actually responded back! We went through the traditional back and forth with questions. Finally at the end instead of the pre-suggested questions, I figured out my own set of questions which were infinitely harder and to the point.
I figured, if this guy had the guts to be truthful answering these questions then there would be hope for us to at least have a good friendship with him, which is really all that I wanted at this time. After being on my own for about 16 years, I wasn’t about to jump into marriage.
Well, he answered the questions and we exchanged email addresses.
Over the next 3 ½ months, we talked strictly email and text messages. We had extenuating circumstances that prevented us from being together, and after counseling separately with a pastor we agreed to not talk on the phone or meet in person until those issues were cleared.
But over that 3 ½ months, the most amazing things began to happen. We began to share one another’s hearts, and eventually he responded one day to ask me to pray that if the Lord wanted our relationship to go into something other than friendship that we would be willing and obedient to pursue that option.
Already though, I knew that I loved this man – sight unseen, voice unheard, never touching. (oddly enough – he just called me on the phone when I wrote this!)
Knowing that we were getting closer, I decided to lay it out on the line. I told him EVERYTHING that I could think of about myself – including things that I was sure that would scare off most men. He did the same thinking that – if this was to be a relationship in the future, then he may as well lay it out on the line too.
He asked me to marry him, and I said “YES”! (bear in mind that we had not met in person yet).
At a pre-appointed time, we met, and as soon as I opened the door and said “hello”, he had me in his arms holding and kissing me so and we didn’t want to let go. His kiss was right, his touch was right, his voice was right – everything was right..
And after an intense period of dating in person for almost 4 months, I walked into a courtroom with this wonderful man and married him. I’ve been married for over a month now and I’m happier than I have ever been in my entire life.
Now will this story happen to everyone? I do not know. All I know is that he and I matched absolutely to the degree where it is amazing. I’m sure that eharmony didn’t have a question like – do you put ketchup on beans? (which we both do), and do you both like muscle cars (which we both do), but our value systems are exactly alike, our personalities match beyond compare, and I am just totally amazed at how much we get along on things.
Now don’t get me wrong –we do have differences. He doesn’t like professional baseball which I adore, but we both like minor league baseball which I like even better. He became a volunteer and is supportive of coaching Special Olympics and his children have volunteered as well.
Overall, I would say that this is the story book marriage that eharmony advertises, definitely beyond what I would have even thought was possible.
Now will this happen to everyone who goes on eharmony?
Probably not.
There are probably not that many people who would be willing to email only for an extended period of time to get to really know one another. Most people would not reveal the most intimate things about themselves about their belief system, their past, their hopes, and dreams, and so forth via email like we did all of that time.
To be honest with you, I learned more about my husband during that 3 ½ month period of time than I would have ever had learned any other way. It was like cramming 3 ½ years of courtship into 3 ½ months of correspondence. I know more about him than any other person in this world and he does I, and that has given us a trust bond that goes beyond description.
He is my very best friend, my confident, my lover, my husband, and every dream that I dared to dream and then some. He is every prayer that I ever dared to pray and millions of unspoken prayers as well.
And he and I would have never met in a conventional manner. It was only through eharmony that we met and with that meeting now comes a lifetime of happiness.
CeCe
Recommended:
Yes
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