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Lisa (Reply to this comment)
by cubmomma
I can understand why you don't want to even answer your phone. You don't want yet another problem to be on the other side. I am so sorry that your friend moved. Please know you have friends on epinions, including me.
~~Sherri
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Oct 14 '07
8:28 pm PDT
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Re: plastic surgery option (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
I've tried to go that route but the Navy does what it wants. If I was going to a civilian doctor I'd have had the surgery by now. Even with the pinched nerve and such the plastic surgeon won't do it. It's medically needed (it's in my medical file in many places) but he doesn't want to do it and I can't make him. :(
Lisa
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Sep 23 '07
7:57 pm PDT
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plastic surgery option (Reply to this comment)
by reeds09
Hey Lisa! I needed cosmetic plastic surgery also. God's blessing for me was 7 hernias (one the size of a cantaloupe!) lurking underneath my skin. So, for health reasons I had to have a tummy tuck. Anything like that going on for you? See if you swing it that way. For health reasons the ins. cos cannot deny the surgery :)
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Sep 21 '07
4:34 am PDT
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A fighter indeed. (Reply to this comment)
by lammet
Dear Lisa,
The fact that you can write about so many misfortunes in such a simple manner shows that you are a rare fighter. I send you and your loved ones my warm wishes for better things to come soon. Hang in there, you are one tough lady.
-Vasilis
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Sep 21 '07
2:54 am PDT
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I'm so... (Reply to this comment)
by marybatson
... sorry Lisa! Praying there will be light at the tunnel for you soon.
Mary :)
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Sep 17 '07
9:48 am PDT
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Re: Hang in there! (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
We're hoping to be able to go for Christmas, but it all depends on what money looks like and what the Navy does with Matt. If Matt is sent out on cruise, I don't know that I want to make that drive alone. I could, but I don't know if I want to. Neither of them understand Christmas, so they wouldn't miss it, it would be me and the rest of the family that would suffer. We'll have to wait and see. We won't be able to go until Christmas due to Matt trying to save up some money and leave up, so there is no chance of us getting away any sooner, even for a break. Lord knows we'd love to go, but we just can't. :(
Lisa
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Sep 11 '07
9:58 am PDT
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Re: Hello (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
I try to put a brave front on for the boys since they don't understand what is going on. Zacky is non-verbal, but we don't know exactly how much he understands. He knows when I can upset, by my body language, so I try to keep that from him. We don't know how delayed Jesse is, either, so we try to cushion them both from this mess. I don't want to poison them with it. Their world is filled with cartoons, toys and laughter. I want to keep it that way as long as I can. Reality comes along way to soon as it is. Zacky may never understand the "real" reality, and that's fine. I want them to be as happy as they can be without all of this extra garbage weighing them down.
Lisa
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Sep 11 '07
9:54 am PDT
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Re: Amazing how you cope (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
Thanks. I don't feel tough. I feel like a coward. I don't want to check my email or my phone anymore. I don't want to deal with anything else. One nasty email or bill collector will have me in tears again. This is the first time I've been online since Friday, and then I was only onine long enough to find the story about the pilot that was killed at the air show near our house. I didn't get online at all.
I want to be strong and I hate what I've become but I keep waiting for something else to fall apart since there is still so many things up in the air, most surrounding the Navy. We're on pins and needles until they get that mess cleaned up and who knows how long that will be? :*(
Lisa
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Sep 11 '07
9:50 am PDT
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Re: Lisa- (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
Thanks. :) I'm not a toughy-feely person, but a hug would be nice. :) I'm exhausted. The not knowing what is going to happen is what makes it worse.
I am sure there are groups out there, but it's hard to get involved because of Matt's two jobs as well as both boys are in therapy. Plus, just about any time I walk outside my whole head closes up and I can't breathe. Stupid pollen. :( Matt only has 14 months left here and we can go home.
Lisa
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Sep 11 '07
9:46 am PDT
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Re: Don't Let Life Get You Down (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
Thanks. :) I'm convinced that we have to be at the bottom of the hole, just going from side to side down here. Just have to find the ladder again so we start climbing up again. If we could get an answer about what the Navy plans to do that would help a lot. My reflux and heartburn have been horrible this past week from the stress.
Lisa
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Sep 11 '07
9:43 am PDT
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Re: LIsa (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
Thanks. It's been hard and I cry at the drop of a hat, which irritates me. I used to be able to let things slide, but lately there has just been to much hitting us at once, I guess, and not having time to recover in between has beaten me down.
We still don't know anything about where Matt is going to. No one has been able to find anything out. The little bit that had been done was wrong. They had him going to a school in Jan and Feb, which he isn't supposed to be taking so they got that cancelled today. The guy that was handling this mess isn on leave until the 17th, so we have no idea if anything will get done before he gets back or what. I'm so mad I could spit.This should have been taken care of but people keep misplacing stuff. I don't have a lot of patience on a good day, so they are really on my last nerve right now.
Lisa
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Sep 11 '07
9:38 am PDT
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Hang in there! (Reply to this comment)
by ariel10575
Lisa,
I'm so sorry to hear how hard it has been there for you. It certainly sounds like you need to go home to Indiana, and get yourself well! Take care, and you are stronger than you think you are!
-Rebecca
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Sep 05 '07
1:51 pm PDT
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Lisa, (Reply to this comment)
by lyoness913
I knew you were going through some stuff but I didn't know it was this bad. My thoughts are with you, and I think of you often. You have other friends and people who care.
((hugs))
Summer
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Sep 04 '07
4:04 pm PDT
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Hey (Reply to this comment)
by artemis8
Hang in there. I hope that 14 months goes quickly and you can go home and I hope Matt doesn't go on a cruise. I hope you get 'better' soon too. I really am wishing you and your family all the best.
Karyn
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Sep 03 '07
9:05 pm PDT
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Hello (Reply to this comment)
by beckish
I am sending you and your family positive energy to help you cope and to help light appear at the end of the tunnel. You have gone through so much, it has to be time for things to change. Your strength is amazing; your children are very lucky to have you in their lives.
Take care and sending lots of hugs too,
Becky
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Sep 03 '07
8:53 pm PDT
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Comment (Reply to this comment)
by dragonfire88
I'm sorry you've had so much to deal with. I hope things get better for you soon.
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Sep 03 '07
7:22 pm PDT
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Geez, Lisa - I knew about (Reply to this comment)
by jo.com
some of this but not all. You gotta keep on going. The eye surgery is cool though! But the other stuff - I wish I had some magic words or even could say it will get better. I have no idea - I just have a big hug!
Jo
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Sep 03 '07
7:14 pm PDT
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I hope (Reply to this comment)
by telynor
that you continue to recover, and that Matt gets out of the Navy soon. I wish I could do something to help you, you've been through a lot, and the mess with the accident and doctors and all makes me want to scream. But you're absolutely right at the end -- you have those two precious boys who need their mum, and that is a wonderful gift in your life. My warmest thoughts and prayers for you and your family. -- Telynor
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Sep 03 '07
4:20 pm PDT
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Hugs! (Reply to this comment)
by Ready2bmom
to you. I'm so sorry to read of the hell you've been through. I will say a prayer for you and pray that there are some good times coming up for you.
Lisa
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Sep 03 '07
1:04 pm PDT
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Amazing how you cope (Reply to this comment)
by germank106
It is amazing to hear how you cope with everything going on in your life. A less strong woman would have long given up, yet you go on.
Yet, as tough as it is right now, always remember that things will get better.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
audrey
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Sep 03 '07
1:00 pm PDT
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Lisa- (Reply to this comment)
by serc
I am so sorry to hear that things are not improving for you; you have an inordinate amount of stress going on in your life. I hope that things improve, or that at least you will be able to move to a place where your health will be able to improve. Finding friends that you can meet up with in person is a great idea - I'm sorry that one of your friends moved away. Can you join some kind of group where you might meet other women in similar situations?
I really wish that you were here in Minnesota so that I could come over and give you a big hug.
Hang in there... I'll be sending good thoughts and prayers your way.
-Sara R-C
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Sep 03 '07
11:54 am PDT
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Re: In Tears, I Write (Reply to this comment)
by LisaDo
Thanks. I am hanging in there. I get up every day because I know my husband and sons need me. It's been hard the past few months and I keep thinking it can't get worse, it can only get better, right? So far it hasn't, but I know it has to at some point, so we're hanging in there by the tips of our fingers.
They talked about putting a port in while I was pregnant with Jesse and I threw a hissy fit. I have very little faith in the Naval Medical Center and the thought of them doing that made me ill. Most of what made me walk out of the ICU was them talking about them doing two blood gases (painful as all get out!! - especially since the second one was done by a student as it is a teaching hospital and he couldn't get the needle in the right place and we don't get a choice or even know it's a student until it's to late) and they were talking about putting in a central line and possibly putting me on a ventilator because they didn't want me getting out of bed anymore to even go to the bathroom because they had to unhook some stuff for me to get up and I flat refused a bedpan. They didn't ask me anything. They were talking about me like I wasn't in the room, so I said I was leaving. They just didn't really expect me to do it.
I've never been a real religious person, but I appreciate your comment and prayers. I am sorry that you've gone thru so much, as well. Part of it is comforting to know someone knows your pain, but then another part of you hurts knowing someone else has been there, too, ya know? I will probably contact you, but I honestly don't know when. I haven't answered hardly any emails, lately. It's not due to the religious comments, I just wanted to make sure you knew that.
Lisa
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Sep 03 '07
11:46 am PDT
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You are one tough lady (Reply to this comment)
by dev-n-diva
I know what it is like to deal with the military and think things are going ot get better and they don't. I wish you did not keep getting the hits you do one after the other. Just when you think something good is coming along something else goes wrong. I hope that things start going better for you and your family soon and that your health starts to improve. My prayers are with you and your family.
Tricia
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Sep 03 '07
10:12 am PDT
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Don't Let Life Get You Down (Reply to this comment)
by Bruguru
It's tough when so much comes at you at once. I know from experience, since we've had a rough few years ourselves with things coming at us from so many directions. And sometimes you just start to wonder if, not when, things will get better.
But you keep plugging, and hope that they do. And sure enough, they usually do.
Best wishes to you, and hang in there.
John
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Sep 03 '07
9:36 am PDT
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I'm so sorry (Reply to this comment)
by ifif1938
to read all that you have been going through....I've been dealing with medical issues the last few years but nothing like you...I also have bad veins and can commisserate with what it's like when you know blood has to be drawn, they tell me I have floating veins..not a good thing when you are in pre- or post op...
Please know you and your precious family are in my thoughts
Best wishes to you always
Barbara
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Sep 03 '07
8:48 am PDT
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I hope things get better for you, and soon! (Reply to this comment)
by jordango
Lisa:
I'll be praying for you. I hope things get better soon.
Jordan
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Sep 03 '07
12:54 am PDT
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LIsa (Reply to this comment)
by theresaro
I thought I had it bad, But after reading this I feel for you I really really do. I hope and pray with all my heart that Matt get to stay off the ship and you get 100 percent healthy again.
I also have the depression which just adds to your health problems and I so know what it's like not to want to do anything anymore,answer my phone. etc.. Crying it's freaking hard how-ever I am getting better.
You are a strong women for all you have went and are going through especially with 2 little boys I give you a lot of credit to be able to keep going. And you will get better. Again I'm routing for you and your family.
Take Care
Teri
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Sep 03 '07
12:13 am PDT
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In Tears, I Write (Reply to this comment)
by bethesdalily
Lisa,
First, allow me to say that this will be a long comment, in response to your long review. I joined Epinions two and a half months ago, but had read many of your articles before joining, including most of your gastric bypass updates.
I can truly say that I know how you feel about medical procedures. I have a life-thjreatening blood disorder that has brought about numerous clotting and bleeding episodes, an hemorrhagic o varian cyst, etc. I have endured several surgeries; my veins were as bad as yours are, until I had a port installed in May. My heart went out to you as I read your latest article.
All I can say, Lisa, is that I am praying for you—that the Lord would take pain from your body and fill you with His joy and peace. I know that this is a controversial subject; this is how I was able to find overwhelming happiness and a deep sense of satisfaction in life. Medical and family crises shattered my heart; the Lord was able to heal that brokenness for me.
Whatever you do, Lisa, whether you agree with me or not, keep holding on. Hold on to your husband, to your children—to a purpose. You are loved, and you are precious. Although I do not know you, I believe that every life on this earth is filled with meaning and purpose.
If you want to talk, my E-mail address is BethesdaLily@yahoo.com. If not, I understand. Heartache takes its toll; I can sincerely empathize with a feeling of being too drained to do certain things. I will keep you in my prayers and hope to read more from you.
Blessings,
Nicole
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Sep 02 '07
11:28 pm PDT
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Wow-- (Reply to this comment)
by Birdfeather
I really hope things get better for you really soon! Take care,
Karen
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Sep 02 '07
11:28 pm PDT
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