Mystery Family 101 Apr 29 '10    Write an essay on this topic. Tweet Popular Products in Toys Pressman Toy Scooby Doo! Make A Match Game in a tin From $8 Hasbro Chutes/Ladders - Disney Princess Edition From $14 The Bottom Line I will continue my research to learn as much as i can about my mystery family and enjoy and appreciate what God gives to me. I  felt the need to "blog" or write about a subject that seems to bother me. When I was younger - my parents divorced the summer before i went into 8th grade. I had a pretty good childhood other than my father was an alcoholic and beat my mom and was mean to us kids. My mother felt the need to finally tell me at the age of about 13 that my father wasn't really my father. Slap! Wow, i didn't see that one coming! I asked her if she was my mother - and she said yes - but that basically she got pregnant and raised me with the help of my grandparents. So, next question is - Who is my biological father? For many years this question was avoided. I was only told bits and pieces. Finally at the age of about 29 - i harrassed her for more information. She got mad at told me his last name. I found him instantly! I had a sister and aunts and uncles, cousins and a whole new family that i never knew i was a part of. Since than, i have become a part of my sisters life. Unfortunately though, we live so far away from one another - that it is difficult to get to know each other better. We keep in touch - but a part of me feels like i was robbed of so many years of getting to know her and the rest of my family. I have finally made some lead way with some of the cousins - but for the most part feel like an outsider. They don't know me - and don't really know what to think or feel about this adult relative that came out of the woodwork (which is no fault of mine) As for my biological father - he is now deceased. I never did meet him but we did have several phone conversations and correspondence thru the mail. He was an alcoholic as well. I made the decision not to meet him but did keep in touch. I advised him if he wanted me in his life - he would need to make some changes. He was also estranged from his other daughter (my sister). Unfortunately, his life ended as a result of his illness with alcohol. Since than, i have been trying to get acquainted with other family members. I have also started a family tree and have been putting bits and pieces together to learn about my mystery family. I have hit some brick walls here and there and nobody understands how disappointing and frustrating this can be! I have been asking for pictures of my grandparents; whom have been deceased for many years - but nobody will accomodate me. I have learned my biological father was the "blacksheep" of the family. He was a good person but the alcohol made him make some bad decisions and disappoint alot of people. Some of those people are not willing to accept me into their life. It saddens me that i am not given a chance to prove i am a good person and nothing at all like my biological father. However, i will not give up! I have always been a firm believer of going after what you want and of following your dreams.

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