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Coping-The toughest part...Feb 05 '01 Write an essay on this topic.The Bottom Line Be open and Honest about it. It is a serious subject, so take it seriously! Before reading this epinion essay, please be serious about it. This is a serious and sensitive subject for women that have had miscarriages. Thanks. Many women have miscarriages. Now A Days, It is not that abnormal. A miscarriage can change ones life. It does change ones life. How can it not change one's life? No matter who the person is, it will change their life. Many women who have had miscarriages do not like to talk about it. I am going to be open about it. Being open about it is one of the most important things you have to do to cope with it. Here is the way that I coped with it: **ACCEPT THE MISCARRIAGE** The first thing you have to do is accept that you had a miscarriage and that there is nothing you can do about it. This is probably the hardest part of coping with a miscarriage. Do not just forget about it. In order to cope and get over it, you have to face it! I know, this is very hard, it might seem almost impossible! **REALIZE THAT IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT** The miscarriage was not your fault! You might need to say this to yourself many times or write it on a post-it note and put it on your mirror every morning, so that when you wake up it will remind you that it was not your fault. **CONSTANTLY TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON OR MOTHER** A lot of women have their self-esteem lowered after a miscarriage. They start to think that they are a bad person. It is very important, when coping with a miscarriage, that you do not loose your self-esteem. If you do, I think that it might be impossible to cope. **TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT IT** No matter who the person is, they can not go through a miscarriage alone. Whether it be your husband, best friend, counselor, or parent you must talk to someone about it. Be open. Be honest. It is essential that you talk to someone about the miscarriage with someone. *************RECAP************** Heres a quick recap of things you want to be and do while coping with a miscarriage: -Know that Miscarriages happen quite often to a lot of women. You are not abnormal b/c you had one. -Realize that a miscarriage will change your life and your view point on many things -Be Open and Honest -Accept that you had a miscarriage and there is nothing you can do about it. -Face the facts. Do not turn your back on the subject. -Do NOT let yourself think that it was your fault. -Do not let this ruin your self-esteem -Talk to someone about it! *NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR* I know from personal experience that this is not easy. I (or anyone else)do not expect you to get over a miscarriage in a week. However, I know that anyone with belief in their self and the faith in their self can get through this. Remember- God gave you the miscarriage because He wanted you to be a stronger person, and you are who he trusted! Do not hate God for the miscarriage, even though that is a common feeling for most women. I hope that everyone with that had a miscarriage will take my advice that I have given into serious consideration. If you have any questions, my email is larza33@yahoo.com. I am here for you if you need to talk to me or ask advice. Because I understand. Thanks. Good Luck with the coping with this! Remember: God Loves YOU and He has faith in YOU. With that, anything can happen!  |
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