Okay, Men. Listen up, here's what women really want!
Feb 12 '01
The Bottom Line Don't waste your money on trinkets that don't mean jack. Make your gift simple and personal, put yourself into it and it will be a hit.
It's almost here. You know, that day. That day you have to be "in love" and all that rot. The day when you men are rushing out to the store at the very last minute to buy us ladies a stuffed animal and or candy and or flowers. By the time you get there, it's slim pickin's. Your prayer is that we won't care and will just be happy you got us something. *lol*
Sound familiar?
I am not one who thinks men should automatically know what their woman wants or would love for Valentine's Day. Maybe you do have an idea for your lady, however if you don't, read on.
You do not need to spend a lot of cash to make your lady very happy. Sure, we'd all be gasping for breath if we got that lovely 14 k gold necklace with the lovely diamond; and a trip to Cancun would be awesome. However, if you men can spend just a little more time getting ready for Valentine's Day, you can easily spend much less cash and still have a very happy lady.
First I'll run down the most given items on Valentine's Day. They are:
Flowers: We don't want a $75 dollar gift of long stemmed red roses. Okay, maybe we do. However, it is not necessary. In fact, I'd have breathing problems if my hubby spent that kind of cash on flowers for me (or anyone else). If your lady likes flowers, and you know what TYPE of flower she likes, by all means, flowers are a great Valentine's day gift. What you need to remember is, as nice as it is to get flowers delivered to you, it's even nicer if your man has picked them out himself and hand delivers them to your place of work (or brings them home that evening).
Spelling it out: I'd rather my hubby went to the local grocery store (ours have lovely fresh picked flowers) and spent $5 - $10 on a bouquet of spring flowers, than spent a ton of money to have some delivered to me.
Candy: You don't have to get us candy! Candy is nice. Personally, I'm hooked on chocolate. And I refuse to buy myself any "expensive" chocolate. Therefore, if my husband wants to go and get me a box of what I really love, that'd be great. However, I'm pretty sure he doesn't know what I want, so just running to the store to pick up whatever is left that comes in a heart shaped box isn't really the best idea.
Spelling it out: Candy is a great gift for Valentine's Day IF. IF you know what kind she likes or wants and if she really enjoys candy in the first place.
Stuffed Animals: How many of these do we really need?! Okay, again. Many of us ladies collect things. I happen to love and collect a certain kind of bear. If my husband went and hand picked out one of these bears for me I would be thrilled. However, going in at the last moment and grabbing whatever off the shelf, so long as it looks like it's for Valentine's Day, isn't a grand idea.
Spelling it out: Unless you come across a stuffed animal that really reminds you of your lady, or you know it's one she'll love, pass up the stuffed animals.
Cards: Cards are great, IF they're something that you really mean. Please don't grab whatever off the shelf because you feel you have to get us a card. A simple note or letter (see below) would be just as much appreciated, if not more.
What do we women really want?
Time: We want your time, men. We know you love sports, and love hanging with the guys. And we're glad you do, however, if you really want to give us something special on Valentine's Day, give us some of your time. Let's take a walk, cuddle and watch a favorite movie of ours (Die Hard doesn't count, but you don't have to watch something totally sappy, either). Give us a back rub, get rid of the kids and run us a nice hot bubble bath. Then, tell us to get in and wait on us with drinks and such. (Wink! You can use your imagination here!)
Notes and letters: Honestly, I would simply love (and be completely shocked!) if my husband would just write out a little note to me. Better yet, you can write a letter (doesn't have to be super long) to your lady. Just tell her what she really means to you. That's all. Trust me, that will be a huge hit with her! Another idea is to leave little notes around the house or in and around her things. Say, "I love you", "Thinking of you", and whatever else you can come up with. Make it personal!
E-mail: Okay, now ladies, don't give me a hard time on this one. However, men, if your lady has an e-mail address and you never send her anything there, sending a little message from work would be a nice surprise for her. And, though it's not quite as personal, an e-card is also great to get. Again, it's only really "special" if it's not something you do all the time. It will let your lady know you're thinking of her and that will make her very happy! Please note, I do not recommend you do this and only this, unless you're sending a heart felt message about what we mean to you, etc.
Overall
Men, what we women really want is you. We don't want your money, or what your money can buy. We want something from your heart. Something from deep down. Something that isn't ordinary. We want to know, to be reminded of what we really mean to you. Express that to us and you'll have the perfect Valentine's Day gift for your special lady.
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