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The Decision Almost Destroyed UsFeb 25 '01 Write an essay on this topic.
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The Bottom Line Look at it this way, if it's not broke then don't fix it method. It's working for us so far. There isn't an easy decision for it.
When I found out that my newly wedded husband and I were having a son by ultrasound on February 10, I was disappointed. Not so much because I wanted a girl, but because I knew that my husband and I were divided on this issue. My husband, who is not circumcised, wanted to leave our son intact. I, on the other hand, am for circumcision, and still am to this day. After finding out the results of our ultrasound, I knew we were in for a tough road ahead of us as we awaited the birth of our son. We were just getting used to the idea of a boy in general before the arguments began. When it started, the harshness rained down very hard. My husband is a debater by nature,and debating is something that I have not been exposed to very much. I have always been the quiet type and have always tried to be a peacemaker. It got ugly. My husband would not stop throwing pamphlets in my face,and would not let the subject rest when I wanted him to. I was not in the mood to talk. I had pre-term labor and needed rest rather than the stress. He even joined nocirc.org which made me unhappy My grounds are that while I agree that there is little medical reason for circumcising, what about hygiene, and the slight medical risks of infections? Why not avoid the complications now and spare him the pain he can remember later on. I have also known of a lot of little boys or men that were not circumcised that have had problems. His grounds were, why should we put the baby through unnecessary pain? One man I know of in his fifties had problems because the skin grew over his urinary hole. A couple of toddler boys developed infections. His reply to this was, "I am not circumcised and have had no problems. So and so is uncircumcised and has had no problems." Another reasoning he had was that they don't circumcise as common practice except in the United States and in certain religions. If I could give him a religions reason to circumcise, he would leave it alone and have let it be done. After numerous visits with counseling, I decided to negotiate. If our son stays infection free, I will have no problem with leaving him intact. However, if it gets broke, it must be fixed. He must be circumcised, because it proved that I was right about the infection risk. So far, it's fine. I also told him I will not clean it any different than I did my other son, who is circumcised. He says there are no special methods to clean it. We will see.  |
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