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rooming with friends...be warned.May 03 '00 Write an essay on this topic.Aristotle once said that living with a friend is one of the things a friend should want. However be warned...living with a friend is not all that it seems to be. At first, one would think the best living arrangement must be with friends, right? Well, living together with a friends involves a lot more than the casual meetings, because it brings into consideration a whole new spectrum of the other person's entire personality such as living habits, responsibility, cleanliness, etc. From my experience, I discovered a lot of things about my friends that I didn't know about...a lot having to do with responsibility, i.e. closing the windows when no one is home, washing dishes, taking out the trash, etc. I found many occasions, where I'm left taking out the trash all the time or washing more dishes than I used. It leads to a lot of tension, because as friends, it's kind of assumed that we'll try and help each other out... So before you live with a friend, establish ground rules, so that no one will take it personally. This is very important! It's amazing how something that bothers you can turn into an insult for your friend...so make sure it's established that nothing is personal, because, trust me, you'll find many surprising things about your friend that you never knew about, i.e. leaving the milk carton open in the fridge or putting leftovers in the fridge uncovered...having their girlfriend over everyday, even when their not home, etc. (Stuff I've experienced...hehe) Oh yeah and I can't forget this one, coming home and finding your friend's girl friend in the house...sitting down watching TV when you want to, and then finding dishes not washed...grrr... :) From here on, do the normal stuff such as who takes care of community items and areas...the bathroom, kitchen, etc. Be open and honest with each other. Don't take me the wrong way, because living with a friend is a neat experience. It can be really positive if it doesn't start off on the wrong foot...Keep things open and make sure you keep up with your part of the deal. Don't take for granted that you're friends first! If things aren't working out, talk about it and, if need be, one of you should move out. It's not worth losing a friend over. Hope my experiences turn out to be useful for some people out there...I know I learned from them. Actually, now I enjoy the company of my friends a lot more...seeing them every once and in a while gives me a chance to enjoy their company a lot more. Maybe I'm just getting old...yikes!  |
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