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Is Martha Stewart in the house?Oct 29 '00 Write an essay on this topic.I'm writing this under the advice of a friend. Thanks Jo... Anyone who has read my profile knows that I'm a single mom of my (almost) seven month old daughter. It's not easy being a single mom. My Shel and I are pretty content right now, with it just being the two of us, but it wasn't easy getting here. I found out I was pregnant in August of last year ('99). I was scared to death. Not only was I afraid my parents would disown me, but I was barely more than a child myself. After a few weeks, my parents calmed down. They didn't disown me, so that eased a few of my fears. My father (a very religious person) said that I had to marry Shelbye's father. None of us wanted my daughter to be born out of wedlock, so we made all the plans. Shelbye's father and I were married on September 8 (I was almost four months pregnant). What no one (including me) knew was that he would turn into a COMPLETELY different person as soon as those vows were said. To make this long story a little shorter, we were married a whopping total of two and a half months before I left him. The day I left, he threatened to hit me, and make me lose "the baby". Even though I was scared, I loved my baby with all my heart. That night, I moved back in with my parents. What happened with him? That was last December. The divorce hasn't even made it to court. He's never seen Shelbye (by his choice), and I've never seen a penny of child support. My daughter is the greatest accomplishment of my life; but I have every intention of making a few more great accomplishments. I am now in the process of getting my GED (my husband made me quit school), and I should be starting college in January. Within a few weeks, I'll have a great job, working for AOL. While so much good has happened, we've also had our share out trouble. After six months of getting no child support, I had to go to DFACS (Dept. of Children and Family Serveices). I couldn't keep a job because I didn't have any day care. At one point, I had a pretty good job. My ex-boyfriend's mom was keeping Shelbye. But Shel has asthma, and any time she would cough, his mom would call me to come get her. I lost that job. DFACS put me on Food Stamps and AFDC (which is now called TANF in Georgia). They helped me get into a program that is helping me get my GED, and is going to pay for my college. I've been on those programs for about a month, but I'm getting back on my feet. This is how I became a single mom. Heck yeah, I'd love to be the perfect mother. But I make mistakes. Everyone does. I'm doing the best I can. Even though I get all kinds of odd looks in the grocery store, and people think I'm a horrible mom because I can't take care of Shel "on my own", it doesn't matter. All it takes is for my sweet angel to look up at me and smile while I'm feeding her that baby food that the Food Stamps bought, and I can forget about that mean looks. My daughter loves me, and it doesn't matter to her whether I'm rich or poor. All she cares about is that I play with her and her Elmo book before she goes to bed tonight. And I will. So, is there a Martha Stewart in the house?  |
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