A Gift to the Man Who Has Everything
Oct 11 '00
Okay, I lied. He doesn’t have everything. He doesn’t have that new pick-up that’s parked in the neighbour’s driveway. You know, the one he’s always there drooling over. He doesn’t have the table saw he’s been lusting after for a year. ( More power, aaaarrrr,aaarrr,aaarrrr! ) But he sure is over at the neighbour’s every weekend borrowing his! He doesn’t have a spiffy wardrobe or fancy jewellery, a line of credit at Home Depot, or a big screen tv to watch the hockey games on. But what he does have is worth much much more to him than all of that combined.
My husband had a horrific childhood. Without going into any detail, let’s just say it was not something that you would ever want to experience, and you certainly wouldn’t want to hang on to the memories of it. But somehow, through all of that, he turned into one of the most caring, loving men I have ever had the privilege of meeting, and it was my extreme good fortune to marry him. He is a wonderful father and a very loving husband.
When my husband and I met I was going through what my lawyer termed as “The Custody Battle From Hell”. (Believe me, that’s exactly what it was, but I’ll leave that for another epinion.) He walked into our relationship with eyes wide open, knowing fully the complications caused by my ex, and the problems he was facing in terms of my ability to trust. Such courage he must have had! He knew my children were going through difficult times, and yet from the moment they met, he was theirs, and they were his. There was an immediate bond between my 2 sons and him. One that has never weakened, it may have been strained a little, but it has never weakened. (The teen years have a way of straining those parental bonds!)
Somehow he managed to remain supportive and unwavering in his devotion to us. We married six years ago this coming Sunday, and in that time not once have I ever had reason to question his love for his family. He has been here with us through many, many difficult times, the loss of a baby, the loss of our home, and he has always been strong, loving, and supportive. Even when his own heart was breaking. We have had two daughters since we married, and my sons have never felt that “Dad” loves the girls more. They have never felt that he was less of a father because he wasn’t their “real” father. To the contrary, they believe that he is more of a father because of the things he does with them, the lessons he teaches them, and the love he gives them unconditionally.
There are so many lessons that can be learned from my husband. Lessons of perseverance, trust, loyalty, and devotion. Patience and understanding, guidance and nurturing. Too many people, be they husbands, wives, fathers or mothers, forget these important traits and lose touch with their families and themselves in the process. I know that will never happen within our family. My husband isn’t perfect, who is? But I know that no matter what happens, the relationship we have will remain strong and true.
To my husband: I know that sometimes you’re very frustrated because you can’t give us all the things you’d like to. I know how hard that can be for you, but please remember this. It doesn’t matter what “things” you give us, what does matter is the love you give us. There are so many things we would like to give you too, but one thing I know is that you really are a man who has everything. Everything that is important, anyway. You have our love, fully and completely. You have our hearts. You are the one we want with us when things are going wrong, and you are the one we want to share our triumphs with. The children adore you, and I adore you.
My gift to you, my darling husband, is this public declaration of love. I am writing this to tell everyone and anyone who cares to read this just how wonderful you are, and how very much you are loved, wanted, needed, desired, and cared for. I know you would give your right arm to make ensure our happiness, but you don’t have to. We already are happy! We have you!
You are my kindred spirit, and I cherish you.
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