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You Can't TOUCH LoveJul 18 '00 Write an essay on this topic.When it comes to showing love, my husband and I were raised very differently. Thankfully, we both agree that giving our children hugs, kisses and telling them that we love them is above anything else the best thing we can do for our children. My husband's parent's divorced when he was about 5 years old. From the time of the divorce, his parents were constantly competing against one another for Larry's love. Both parents thought that they could show their love by spending lots of money on Larry. Unfortunately the only thing they were teaching was for Larry to be a spoiled little brat. Larry was very rarely told that he was loved by either of his parents. Instead his parent's tried to buy his love. Larry had all the toys that a boy could ever dream of having. He even had a replica of the red and black leather jacket that Michael Jackson use to wear!! I was raised very differently from my husband. My parent's divorced when I was 18 months old. My father didn't show any interest in having anything to do with me until I was about 13 years old. I was basically raised by my mother and my grandparents on my mother's side of the family. We didn't have a whole lot of money when I was growing up, but I didn't know the difference. I still had a roof over my head, food in my belly, and clothing on my back. My mother did buy me plenty of things that I wanted, but it was mostly given as gifts for birthday, or Christmas. I was shown love on a daily basis. Cuddling with my mom in her bed in the morning before we had to get up and get ready for work and school was very healthy for the both of us. My mom felt needed and loved by me. I also felt loved and wanted by my mother. Even when times were really rough financially, we still had our love. This is one of the things that my mom taught me growing up. All the things in our house are replaceable, we are not and neither is our love. When I first met Larry, he had never had anyone be so affectionate. I tell him that I love him everyday. I kiss him goodbye in the morning when he goes to work. I also kiss him in the evening when he comes home from work. I know that it sounds kind of "old-fashioned," but it has made our bond with one-another even stronger. Now that I have taught Larry what love really is, we are working as a team to teach our children what love is. We are a very affectionate family. Our 2 1/2 year old loves to cuddle with us in bed on weekends. The smile on little Leland's face and the sparkle in his eyes let us know that he feels loved by both of us. I think the most important thing when teaching your children about what love means and showing them love is that you can't touch love. Love is a feeling, not material things. Anyone can buy you that toy you wanted, but only people who really care about you will take the time to tell you that they love you. I takes more time for a parent to show their love by words and actions, than by going out to the closest Wal-Mart and buying Johnny a stuffed animal that he has been begging for. Love sticks with a person for a lifetime. Material things come and go. Material things can be replaced if burned up in a fire. Love can't be replaced. It's never too late to start showing love and affection.  |
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