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Spending enough time with your kids????Mar 08 '00 Write an essay on this topic.How do you know that you are spending enough time with your children? Do you come home from work and say "Hi kids," then go about all your own personal business for the rest of the evening, ending up with saying "goodnight kids" and thats it? Maybe even a "how did your day go" added somewhere in between? Not really listening for an answer or not prodding for feedback?? Maybe you only said "I love you" and hoped that would "cover it?" If so, then I can tell you right now that your children are suffering a loss; A great loss! Your children are feeling like you don't care, like you don't love them, and most importantly, they feel as if they are not worth your time of day! This child is feeling worthless! If there is one thing in life that you can do to raise a productive, well loved child, you must spend quality time with them. 6-10 meaningless words a day will not cut it! The childs' SPIRIT for living and entire well-being will suffer greatly. 1. Kids need to know that they were thought about during their or your time away from home. (ex; "During my lunch break today, I thought about you when we did this or that....) 2. Kids need to know that they were missed.(ex; even a simple "I missed you" would work) 3. Kids need to know that you care about them. (ex; "Did you have enough to eat at lunch?" or "Was today a rough day at school?") 4. Kids need to know that you care about what they do.(ex; "Did you have fun?" then follow up with 'questions' pertaining to the situation) 5. Kids need to know that they are special to you in several ways.(ex; "I love it when you.....) 6. Kids need to know that you WANT to spend time with them. (ex; ask them what they would like to do together with you and DO IT!!) 7. Kids need to have that TIME spent with them. (don't make empty promises. Follow through with ideas and if there arent any ideas on the table, do something spur of the moment; grab em and wrestle or tickle them) 8. Kids need to hear that they are loved. Kids to need to hear this every day of their lives. You cannot say these 3 simple words enough! HOWEVER, if you are not doing any of the above caring/sharing these words may be meaningless to a child. If you've ever thought to yourself that you need to spend more time with the kids, or if the children seem like they are a bit distant from you, those are probably good signs that you need some quality time with them. YOU CANNOT SIMPLY JUST SAY "I LOVE YOU" AND EXPECT KIDS TO "FEEL THAT LOVE." YOU HAVE TO ALSO SHOW THEM YOU LOVE THEM, BY SPENDING TIME WITH THEM!!!!!! *********************** Thank you for taking the time to read this in its entirety. This was not meant to make you feel bad if you are not spending a lot of time with your child/children. I am hoping it will make you realize what your children are missing out on and help motivate you to spend more time with them. They really do need this interaction to feel loved!  |
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