I'll take the car....
May 30 '00
No, divorce is NOT a joking matter. I have been on both sides of the fence..a child of divorced parents and now a parent without a partner due to divorce.
I am not going to tell you about my divorce but rather a little something about Don's who is my fiancee.
Don has been married twice and I will be the third one. Prayerfully it will be the third one is a charm and NOT strike three; you're out.
In order for us to get married in the Catholic Church, Don has to obtain an anullment. He was married for 22 years and I was married for 23 years. I have to get a statement from the priest stating I was not married in Church but by a Justice of the Peace.
Getting back to his story...the annullment. I can't understand why a person has to go thru this once they have obtained a divorce. Filling out the paperwork has been so hard on him as he is having to relive the pain all over again. Then he has to have 3 witnesses to verify what he is saying. She has the opportunity to contest it even though she is the one who committed adultry and let her now husband move in a couple of days later after Don moved out.
My divorce was emotional to me but I could not imagine 4 years later having to dredge up the past and put it in black and white on paper for others to read and make a decision as to whether or not they are going to grant it. Going thru a divorce is just like death with two exceptions...they are still alive and you don't collect insurance benefits.
I don't care how long you were married and how old your children are, divorce still hurts all parties involved. I will say one thing though..if you have tried everything possible to make it work and it doesn't then maybe divorce is the only answer there is. I don't believe in divorce but there are some circumstances as to where there is no other alternative.
One thing to consider when debating a divorce is have you realized the change this is going to make in your life? Are you ready for that change? Have you really given it your all? Are you better off with them or without them?
No one can make a decision for you but you. Once you make this decision don't go bouncing back and forth as it really does mess up the kids. I know cause I am living proof of that.
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