Who's in charge here?May 31, 2000 Write an essay on this topic.
In reading the Just In section today, I'm reading a lot of reviews that seem to feel the same way that I do. A lot of children are not being taught who is in charge...and that following parents/teachers rules is what is expected!
I feel sad for children who aren't taught what the boundaries to life are. They become the child that no one wants to have visit their home, the one teachers dread getting as a student.
They become wild and ill mannered and unfortunately disliked, even though it isn't their fault.
When raising my kids, they had rules. We were not a democracy....Mom and Dad were in charge! That is not to say that we didn't listen to our kids and try to empathize with their feelings, but they knew if Mom said "Jump" they had better jump. I don't really even know what it is that they thought would happen if they didn't...we never got that far. Yes, I spanked at times, and I think that I regret that now, but I also know that I got the respect from my four kids that I expected of them.
No, my kids were not raised as mindless robots....they all had their own ideas and tested me often with them. But I tried, as much as possible to be consistent with my rules, and let them know that it is what I expected from them. I would be remiss if I didn't mention my most challenging child (Chalathra)....she was a great teacher for me. I know that there are children that require a lot of extra effort to raise, but raising our children and the adult they become is what the job description is.
I feel so sad to see so many children really neglected in their raising. I believe it is our responsibility to discipline and raise up a child in the way they should go. Yes, it is easier to give in and give them what they want....but the price, I believe, is much too high.
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