Being Adopted Myself...
Feb 02 '00
Being adopted myself, I have to say that I strongly agree with it. The only thing I know about my biological parents is that my mother was 16 and her boyfriend ran off and left her when he found out. I couldn't thank my mother enough for giving me up for adoption.
I'll admit that I have had a rough life,(it has nothing to do with being adopted), but if circumstances were different I wouldn't have my husband or my daughter. Sure, my life could have been just fine if she would have kept me, but what if she had kept me and then ended up being one of those mothers who regrets it for the rest of her life because she had to grow up too fast.
I once talked a girl out of having an abortion. Now I hope I don't offend anyone because that is not my purpose and everyone is entitled to feel how they feel. Anyway, this girl was around 18-19. She already had a baby. The reason she already had a baby was because she had been raped. She was pregnant this time because she willingly had sex and she obviously wasn't careful. She wanted to abort this baby.
She didn't think that the baby was "alive" until it took it's first breath and that it didn't have a soul yet, so it wouldn't matter if she aborted it or not. I simply explained to her that I completely understood why she didn't want to have another baby, but that I didn't understand why she thought the baby wasn't "alive" yet. In the womb babies suck their thumbs, get the hiccups, eat, use the bathroom, etc... What's the difference in what they do in the womb from what they do outside the womb? Granted they do live off the mother in the womb, but the key word here is LIVE.
I also explained to her that the reason I was adopted was because my mother had cancer and was unable to have children of her own. I told her that there were plenty of couples out there that want children more than anything and can't have them.
My mother did end up dying when I was 9 years old, but I strongly believe that if she had not adopted me she would have died alot earlier because she always told me that I was what she lived for. I would give anything to have her back, but I look at it this way: She got to have the child that she thought she never would and I got to have a mother that loved me more than anything and that I loved more than anything and I cherish every moment that we had together.
I am 21 now and it really doesn't matter to me whether or not I ever meet my biological mother, but if I do I just have one thing to say to her... "Thank you for giving me up."
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A.Berryhill
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Member: Andrea Berryhil
Location: Lubbock, TX
Reviews written: 13
Trusted by: 7 members
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