Curfew? What's that?
Sep 29 '00
I guess I was what you would call lucky. I NEVER had a curfew when I was in high school. It wasn't that I was a total geek and never went out. It was more that my parents trusted me and knew I would be okay. How did I get to the point where I had no curfew? Let me start from the beginning.
When I was growing up, my parents knew all my friends and all their parents. If I had a slumber party at someone's house, they knew I'd be taken care of. It was good to have the same friends through the years. My parents knew the girls I hung out with so they didn't worry that I'd be badly influenced. That was one contributing factor to my not having a curfew.
I really didn't start going out on the weekends until 10th grade. My friends and I would go to sporting events mostly. We were young girls and we loved looking at hot guy athletes. I was the only one of my friends who didn't have a curfew. I didn't see it as strange though. We pretty much always came home around midnight anyway.
But just because I didn't have a curfew, didn't mean I didn't have responsibilities. I had my parents' trust that I would follow their rules. They were really simple and easy.
1. I had to tell them where I was going and who would be driving.
2. I had to call at least once to let them know I was okay.
3. I had to come home (no matter how late it was!)
4. I had to promise that if anyone was in trouble or if everyone was too
drunk to drive, I had to call home.
Luckily, the 4th one never happened. We were good girls anyway. We just went out to have fun and look at guys! We were sophomores after all.
Over the years in high school, I never got in trouble over this and my parents never enacted a curfew. I think this was a good thing. By having my parents trust, I knew I had to do my best not to break it. I didn't want to let them down. And after all, I had every teenagers dream, no curfew.
Now that I'm older, I see that not having a curfew made me a lot more responsible. Had I had a curfew, I would have probably broken it and had my parents worrying about me. Without a curfew, I learned how important it was to keep my parents informed. And they were able to sleep easy at night knowing where I was and who I was with. This only helped add trust to our relationship.
I'm not saying a 'no curfew' rule is good for everyone. But it worked for me. Sometimes teaching responsibility is better than just laying down the rules. Even though I'm 20 now, I still call my parents when I'm away from home. They appreciate knowing where I am and I feel good knowing they care enough about me to want to know where I am. So yeah, when it comes down to it, I am lucky.
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