Affection gives security
Apr 27 '00
My husband was late for work one morning and rushed out the door without his usual hugs and kisses, just a quick good-bye as he closed the door. It took my son over an hour to stop crying that Daddy didn't give him a hug and kiss good-bye. It was one of the most heartbreaking things for me. As soon as my husband's car pulled in front of the house, Zachary had the front door yanked open and his arms outstretched. Is affection important? YES!!
I grew up in a very affectionate family, and in turn I give my children the same affection. It's more than just a hug and kiss....it's a whole attitude. It's the time spent reading a book, or playing a game. It's smiles and laughter and happy times. It's giving unconditional love to your children and your spouse. And in turn everyone develops a sense of security in the family.
In turn, I see my son's attitude with other people and even his toys. His words and actions mimic what we say and do to him. He plays with all of his "Little People" and I hear him yelling "Daddy is going to work - give me a hug and kiss good-bye!"
Watching him with his baby brother is just an incredible experience. If Devon cries, Zachary is the first one to his side patting him and telling him that it's OK, we love him. It was a big adjustment when Devon was born, but now I see the love shine through that big brother has for the baby. I watch him be so gentle and loving, and realize that without affection, he would never act in such a manner. He also knows that even though Devon has joined our family, he still has a place in our hearts.
And we cant forget the times when my spends an hour outside picking every dandelion he can find and comes running in the house yelling "MOMMY!! I brought you flowers!!" It just makes me melt! I am always getting little "presents" from my son, whether it is a drawing, or "flowers" or one of his matchbox cars put in a grocery bag. Each one is accepted with hugs and kisses and big I love you's.
It is also important for a child to see affection between his parents. It teaches to respect others and will help build a solid relationship when they get older.
Affection helps build security and self esteem in a child. It also helps them build relationships with others. It is such an important part of life, regardless of age. My husband has learned to take that extra minute or two each morning for his hugs and kisses and I love you's. Sometimes being late is worth it.
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