Don't be afraid to show love
Aug 28 '00
Showing affection and love within a family is one of the most important things a family needs to do. It is one of the basic needs, as important as food & shelter. If a child doesn't feel the love or see the love, it can definitely have an impact on their teen and adult lives. Let me explain:
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I grew up in a family that didn't show affection. No hugs, no I love yous, no snuggles. When I became a teen, I was still craving love from someone, and unfortunately married at a young age, 18. MAJOR mistake!
My husband grew up in a divorced household with a step-father and half-siblings. So, he felt pushed to the side and didn't receive attention, hugs, or love. He spent a lot of time by himself, with no one to talk to about things in his life. When he got older, he had to be taught how to love. He had shut his feelings off for so long as a child to avoid being hurt that he had a hard time turning them back on again.
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What have we learned from our childhood experiences to help us decide how to raise our children? Well, we have always hugged our children any time we want a hug, or they want a hug. We're always giving kisses, exchanging I love you's, listen to every last detail of our daughter's day at school. We make sure we are both there when it's the kids' bedtime, tucking them into bed at night, there's always a hug, kiss, and an I love you.
Our children know that they can come to us and talk about anything, no matter whether it's good or bad about them, or if it's good or bad about us. No matter what it's about, they know that we are here for them, and will help them.
Also, seeing a solid family structure is also important. It really helps build a child's self-esteem when they also see their parents still in love. What a great example of how to have a loving marriage when they're older!
Our children are still young, 3½ years and 5years old, but we feel that we have given them a solid family structure and trusting relationships between each of us. We will continue to work on the strength of our relationships with our children, the way we continually work on the strength of our marriage. After all, family is everything! And, sending your children into the world with love, self-respect, and great memories of childhood are the best thing a parent can do, and I hope our children have just that when they become adults.
Thanks for reading, and I wish you much love and happiness.
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