One story of an adopted child...
Oct 04 '00 (Updated Nov 03 '00)
My best friend was put up for adoption, her mother was a prostitute and a schizophrenic, her father is and always will remain unknown. She struggles with this everyday. I've helped her try to find her mother, we wrote thousands of letters all over the United States to people with the same birthdate or names. It's possible that her mother received a letter but like a lot of mothers that put their children up for adoption, they don't want to be found.
My friend has had a hard life, not like some of the glamorous stories of happy, successful adoptions, for those are few and far between. You never hear about the horror stories of adopted children, maybe because you don't want to believe they are true. Adoption is a better alternative than abortion, you say? I don't think that's always accurate. If you are a strong believer against abortion, please DON'T continue reading because you won't like this opinion and I don't want it rated poorly because of a difference of opinion, that's not fair and neither was the life that my friend was thrown into. Never in a million years would I ever wish that she was aborted but to prevent some children from living this horror story maybe people should start using proper birth control methods or sad enough to say, abort.
This country is over populated and it's not just third world countries that live in poverty every day. Too many irresponsible people are having children and there aren't enough people adopting them. Some children live their lives in and out of foster care, never knowing what love is and never getting to know what it's like to have a family. A lot of foster parents are only in it for money, the more children, the bigger checks. Would you want the child you put up for adoption being abused or neglected? I know I wouldn't. Here is my friend's story, maybe then you'll see how great adoption can be.
As I said before, she was put up for adoption at birth. She was in and out of foster homes most of her childhood, never getting a chance to settle down in one town too long. Never staying in one school too long, making friends she'd have inevitably have to leave. Most of the families she lived with had 3 or 4 other foster children living in their homes. She never had her own toys and never got things that she wanted. She barely had the things she needed.
When she was 13, she was adopted by a family. Great right? Far from it. The family that adopted her had money, she lived well, she got along with her new siblings, she got to stay in one place for awhile. While in that home, the father sexually abused her. She told people, no one believed her. When word got out that she had told someone, the family moved...without her. She knew they were moving, she helped pack. After school on the day she was supposed to move, they sent her to the Boys and Girls Club with instructions that they would pick her up when the van was loaded. No one ever came for her. She walked back to her home to find it empty. Abandoned once again.
She was then placed in a private school, populated mostly by children with similar backgrounds. I attended that school but for different reasons. I met her there. She had been there for 3 years, most people aren't there that long but she had nowhere else to go. I was 17 when I got there, so was she. We were roommates and quickly became best friends, I listened to her story, I cried night after night with her. I became her family. I walked with her down the aisle when she graduated, I went with her to all of her modelling auditions, I supported her when she made life decisions, I congratulated her when she put herself through college. I had my parents to do that for me. She had only me. I never want another child to have to endure that. It's no life for anyone and even though she succeeded, they all aren't as lucky.
If you feel adoption is right for you, try to find the adoptive parents yourself. Don't put the child into state's custody. Don't give your baby to just anyone because it's easier that way. Easier for you and that is more selfish than having a baby you don't want. Granted mistakes happen, rape or your birth control failed, just make sure you use birth control. If you agree with abortion, do it. Don't wait until you are too far along in your pregnancy, better to prevent this from happening than to enable it.
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