Common Sense!Apr 26, 2000 Write an essay on this topic.
I have two children, aged 3 and 4 and occasionally, yes! they need to be disciplined. There seems to be two camps on this opinion, either you're a child abuser OR you spend hours chatting to your child about right and wrong, meanwhile pulling your hair out because you're not getting anywhere!
Is this true in real life, of course not. In our house the general pattern of discipline goes something like this:
If they are running around, screaming, annoying each other, over excited, being generally unruly, have refused to quieten down, then they receive a 1...2...3 warning. By which I mean I tell tell them to calm down by the count of three or else they'll have to sit on a beanbag, like a time out. If they don't, they know that they'll be sitting on that beanbag until they do.
If they are naughty at the dinner table, won't eat their dinner, etc then they don't get treats that day.
If they refuse to help me tidy their toys up then the toys left out get put on a high shelf for a day or two.
And finally if they bite, throw objects, run off when we're out, or anything else that is fundamentally dangerous then they get a smack on the bum. By which I mean a tap with the flat of the hand that does not in any way mark them. This is not child abuse, it is not extreme, it is safety. It is of course important to tell your child why they had a smack.
In general it comes down to common sense, the punishment should fit the crime and once the event is over it should be forgotten by both of you, even if the child sulks, the parent shouldn't. Make your point and move on.
Finally on a funny note, my daughters consider the beanbag punishment the worst of all. My oldest daughter once sat on the beanbag just to watch TV, after a while she said to me, "Mummy I'll be good now," at which point I reminded her that I hadn't asked her to sit there!! We both laughed.
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