Afraid of Divorce
Apr 15 '00
My review may be a little different than others have written but I have reason for writing this.
Today I received a phone call from a friend of mine back home. She had been in a bad marriage from day one. It all started with the verbal abuse and mind games then later it became physical. She called to tell me the latest happenings in her home. The night before her husband came home yet again drunk and decided to hit her and push her around. Some of you may think that she is just making these things up to get attention. I have a another friend who is security police officer who confirmed it because he called me also. She told me that she was afraid to leave her husband because she didn't think she could make it on her own with two small children. Key word being afraid.
Why are so many women afraid of divorce and not making it on their own. Why are they afraid to seek the help they need to get out of a bad marriage? There are many questions but not so many answers. I have read some reviews saying that you get out of a marriage by what you put into it. This is not true when one partner is an abuser.
This review is for all women out there who are on an abusive relationship. there are places you can go and there are ways to get out and make it on your own. My mother always told me to plan ahead. Keep a secret savings account and save until I had enough to keep the bills paid for at least two months. I know this is isn't giving your spouse a chance if you are sneeking around behind their backs but if you are afraid for your life than you are going to do whatever you have to.
There are centers you call call for help and by all means don't be afraid to call the police if you are being hit. They can arrest your spouse and you can file a restraining order against them. Talk to your family, don't keep them in the dark of what's going on even if they do think the world of your spouse. Your family is probably going to be your best support system. The police will direct you to places you can go to be safe.
If you want out of your marriage because you have fallen out of love but are still afraid of not making it on your own, then again, plan ahead! If you can't make yourself be honest with your spouse then you need to make sure you have a job than can support you and any children you may have. Make out a budget so you know for sure what you are in for. You can always apply for state and federal aid until you are stable. I see a lot of women that stay in a marriage until another person comes along to take care of them. I don't recommend this. You will more than likely go through the same thing all over again later on. Be strong, have faith and you can make it.
I know I will probably irritate a lot of reviewers with my opinion but I can not sit back and watch so many people put their selves through the pain. Having the strength to take that first step is the scariest part of making it on your own. You can do. Believe in yourself and you will be amazed at what happens!!
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Member: Frankie Mills
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