Is my Mama a Lama?
Jun 22 '00
When i was growing up my mother was always there for me. She talked to me about all the new changes I encountered, and compared her childhood to mine, always offering the best advice. She understood that I would soon grow independent, and although she let me go off on my own there was always her words and support right behind me. I fear now that I will not be able to give my children this same kind of support and guidance because I am a working mother.
I'm away from home from 6:30 in the morning until 4 in the afternoon, and my kids must let themselves in the house by themselves and they always come home to an empty house. My kids are old enough now that they don't need a babysitter, but I worry all the time. Are they ok? Do they feel lonely? Should I be there to help them out? These are just a few of the many questions that go through my head every day. One of the most nagging questions that is always in the back of my mind is do they recognize me as a mother? Am I fulfilling all my jobs as a mother, guidance counselor, teacher friend? I never forget how my mother was to me, and I want to be 100% like her, but I'm a single mother and all I can do is try my best. I remind them every chance I get that I'm there for them and I love them. I want to tell all the working mothers and fathers out there that you must make sure your kids know that you are their parents, and you will always be behind them for guidance and support. Don't let them feel abandoned or alone. If you're not there enough to tell them to their faces, leave little notes around the house where you know they'll find them, or call as often as possible, or even e-mail them and tell them or give them reminders that you love them.
My favorite thing to do if I'm going to be working late that day is put little gifts all around the house for them to find. Usually I put candy hearts, jewelry, or something of their interests. With every gift I put a handwritten not reminding them of my love, and a small clue to the next gift. This gives them something to do until you get home as well as makes them feel more comfortable about you not being there which helps them to become more independent. If you don't have the time to do this I also like to send them each a separate e-mail with a simple message. Anyway you choose to reach out to your children is a good effort, and they do appreciate it. If not now then they will later in life. Don't make them feel like they have chains around them though, let them unlock the secrets of life. All you need to do is remind them you love them and you're support is present. I can't stress that enough.
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Member: Ann
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