Son please don't toss me in a old folks home..
Sep 29 '00 (Updated Oct 02 '00)
My parents are not yet even close to the age where they need any extra care. They have though already asked me and my sisters to never place them in a nursing home when they get old.
Both my great grandmother and my grandfather both were placed in nursing homes near the end of their lives. They both asked to be removed from the nursing homes and to have their last days alive in their own homes. My great grandmother had several strokes before she died and was not at all able to do anything for herself. She couldn't even talk and was not really able to communicate with anyone. She did know who we were and who she was and where she was. You could see her face light up when we brought her home from the nursing home. I believe that really did mean so much to her.
My grandfather on the other hand liked the nursing home and loved for others to take care of him. He died of cancer and when he knew he was close to death wanted to be able to spend the last days of his life where he spent almost all of his life rather then the nursing home. He died in the hospital though after having a massive heart attack. I believe though he was already close to dead before he went to the hospital, and probably didn't even know he didn't die in his favorite chair.
My father spent many many years after my grandmother died taking care of my grandfather. He did everything for him from cleaning his house to paying all his bills. My dad is so much different then my grandfather i can NOT see him letting anyone do those things for him even when he is really old and needs the help. My mother is the same way although I do believe she would accept help. I have always said that I am going before either of them just so I don't have to deal with them when they are old.
I believe it is only right for us children to abide by the wishes of our parents. They take care of us even now still when we are all grown up. I do know caring for them when they are older will not be easy. I do feel it is the least I can do for everything they have done for me. I sure hope my sisters feel that way too. I don't want to be the ONLY child taking care of those two stubborn people :)
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