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cessceej Original Post: Jan 24 '07,  10:11 am           Reply
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My Cat Died In My Arms How Do I Cope?

Yesterday Morning my baby died in my arms. She was 20 years old and so strong. She had recovered from a stroke she had in 2005. On Friday she started acting weird and, sleeping in the bathroom/bathtub and, trying to get outside though she never had before. Saturday night she stopped eating and drinking and, I held her all monday night. She kept cuddling to me. I kept hoping she would go to her bowl and eat some food and drink some water. Tuesday morning at 6:45 I told her she had been so strong, and, it was ok to go now, she took a big breath and, was gone and, I lost it. She lived a long happy life I know but, I just can't get over this and, I don't understand how time will heal my broken heart. Seeing her die was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I just miss her so much! Everytime I look at my bed I start crying cause she's not sleeping in her favorite spot. Seeing my dog looking around for her kills me I know she misses her too. I don't know how I am going to recover from this loss, my heart hurts so much.

     
kjell1979 Posted: Jan 25 '07,  9:00 am           Reply
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RE: My Cat Died In My Arms How Do I Cope?

I too had a tragic story of losing my cat just very recently. He disappeared during Christmas time while my wife, kids and I were away at my parents in Seattle. Since it was warm here in New England, we kept looking even 3 weeks after he disappeared. Then someone came up to our door and mentioned a cat had been run over in a busy street near our house and it was him. I was very close to him and it really hurt. My wife and I saved his life 2 times in the 5 1/2 years he was alive and he repaid us by being a sweet and gentle cat despite having two kids under 5. It's been 3 weeks since it happened, but I still haven't gotten over it. My wife hasn't either. The troubling part for me is if he would have grown old and died I would have already been prepared for his passing. But because it was so sudden and the fact that he was almost home after so long (200 feet from the door!) made it that much worse for me.

     
rcjones Posted: Jan 30 '07,  4:00 pm           Reply
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Quote: cessceej
Yesterday Morning my baby died in my arms. She was 20 years old and so strong. She had recovered from a stroke she had in 2005. On Friday she started acting weird and, sleeping in the bathroom/bathtub and, trying to get outside though she never had before. Saturday night she stopped eating and drinking and, I held her all monday night. She kept cuddling to me. I kept hoping she would go to her bowl and eat some food and drink some water. Tuesday morning at 6:45 I told her she had been so strong, and, it was ok to go now, she took a big breath and, was gone and, I lost it. She lived a long happy life I know but, I just can't get over this and, I don't understand how time will heal my broken heart. Seeing her die was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I just miss her so much! Everytime I look at my bed I start crying cause she's not sleeping in her favorite spot. Seeing my dog looking around for her kills me I know she misses her too. I don't know how I am going to recover from this loss, my heart hurts so much.


My sincere condolences. It will take a long time for you to heal, but the missing her, will always be there.

Please...keep watch on your pup. Animals mourn too and have been known to die of a broken heart. :(

Take care.
RC
     
nagels Posted: Feb 01 '07,  8:20 pm           Reply
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RE: My Cat Died In My Arms How Do I Cope?

I also am very sorry for your loss. RC has given you good advice. In time your pain will lessen, even though now that doesn't seem possible. The loss of a pet, especially of one you've had so long, can be heartbreaking and overwhelming. Think of all the good times and happiness you shared with your pet. One day you may be ready to share your love with another pet.
I wish you the best.

     
starbucksmine Posted: May 28 '07,  10:54 am (Updated: May 28 '07,  11:03 am)           Reply
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know how you feel

on may 21 2007 our two beloved female cats just disappeared
they were on their favorite chair on our porch at 11:00am by 12:30pm when I called them,they were no where to be found. we are heart broken these two angels literally gave my daughter the strength to cope with the systemic lupus she has been plagued with. we have had our mama cat (small silver gray short haired)since she was three weeks old,we all took turns being her stand in mother and feeding her round the clock.the funny thing is she has been named mama cat long before she had her baby. she had one litter that produced one kitten,and that is our scruffy cat a very petite long haired gray and white striped tabby cat. I go out into the neighbor hood two three four times a day just looking and then again at night,we miss them terribly and we are also afraid the loss is going to send our daughter into another flareup. I have searched everywhere shelters local vets,neighbors etc. we have hung fliers but in my heart I know they were taken, because both cats disappeared at the same time,they were house cats very seldom did they leave the front porch,and if we had to be gone for even the shortest run to the store, they were put in the house never left to roam. I would appreciate any ideas on how to find them and how to approach neighbors who may have trapped them. thank you Helena

     
verdun Posted: Jun 28 '07,  5:47 am           Reply
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RE: My Cat Died In My Arms How Do I Cope?

A pet's passing reminds us that life is really precious and to never take life or health for granted. My cat, Ella was to turn 16 next week, but in matter of only 4 days (the hardest part is that this happened while we were away for the weekend) her sitter reported that she became very very weak, stopped eating and hid downstairs. We returned last night to find her almost lifeless, eyes open and was not even blinking. I thought she died just moments after finding her, but while stroking her and putting my ear to her heart could her a faint heartbeat and to my surprise a very faint purr... I really think that she waited to see me before letting go. We rushed her to the vet but I suspect the whole ordeal stressed her out and she was too weak to hang on. In retrospect, I wished I had kept her at home so that she could have kept her dignity and continued to give her all my love until she passed. I will focus on the 16 years of joy that she gave me and all of the special moments that we shared. Has this quick turning happened to anyonee else's cat? She seemed herself 5 days ago and the sitter said she was fine over the weekend...looking back she had lost some weight and had chosen a few odd places to rest, but no overt clinical signs of illness... I will miss her terribly.

     
kiwhiskers Posted: Jul 31 '07,  2:29 pm           Reply
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I know exactly how u feel. my cat died jus 2 days ago. At the time of her death i was at wrk. i out her outside 2 play as i normally did n she normally found her way bak. she was mainly a house cat n i shud hav known sumtin was up since she normally meows 2 come inside after 15 mins and on dat day she didnt. but i shrugd it off n figure she was chasin a butterfly. my parents normally put her in when it gets late so i wen 2 wrk. well wen i cam home da nite i noticed she didnt greet me. i knew immediately sumtin was wrng. i lookd 4 her up until 1am n finally gave up. i hardly slept. i woke up da nxt mornin tinkn i heard a meow however it wasnt her. i asked my family members if dey saw her n das wen dey told me she died. she somehow got to da dogs in da backyard n mangled her. i was devastated. it was so hard 2 put her tings away. i had her 4 only 3 months yet i she was da love of my life. she was soo affectionate n loving i miss her all da time. ery1 says get anuda cat bt u i cnt replc my dear kiwi. idk how 2 cope sumtims just time will heal i gues

     
oldhunter Posted: Jul 31 '07,  7:21 pm           Reply
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cat just died in my arms 2 hours ago

i knew it was coming
i think he waited for me to get home from work
held him like a baby
a few deep breaths and he was gone
must be in heaven now eating all his favorite foods
miss him and love him
see ya one day lunker
bye

     
rcjones Posted: Jul 31 '07,  8:26 pm           Reply
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My sincerest condolences.
Yes, sometimes a companion will wait to say a final goodbye.
I'm so glad that you returned in time to hold him as he crossed the bridge.

I sincerely hope that your pain of loss will ease as you remember all the wonderful times that you shared together.

Bless you.

Ronni

     
oldhunter Posted: Aug 02 '07,  7:33 pm           Reply
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thankyou for the response
god bless you

     
cecee73 Posted: Sep 11 '07,  11:08 pm           Reply
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RE: My Cat Died In My Arms How Do I Cope?

I am so sorry for your lost. I had to put my Mase to sleep on Monday, his reaction was like your baby, he was fine then suddenly became weak and listless, he would not sleep and just laid there. We took him to the Vet where they said he had FIV, I feel like we should have taken him home so he could have passed within his house and around his family. I have another kitten (Coffy) they too were very close and now she is searching for him, going to the carrier she saw us take him out in. I don't know what to do, should I go get another kitten for her right away or should I wait. Do you have any ideas or opinions on this? It would be so appreciated.

     
elwoodsmom Posted: Sep 13 '07,  8:02 pm           Reply
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poor kitty

I'm so sad. Today my kitty was put to sleep after having a stroke. He was paralyzed from the waist down due to a blood clot in his aorta. Please pray for him--my family will miss him terribly and I can't shake the sadness. We had him for 14 years and he was a joy. Can't write anymore.

     
misstinajoon Posted: Oct 06 '07,  1:05 am           Reply
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I lost my cat Aug,2007

My beautiful baby died in my arms over a month ago. She was 13 years old and sick, expecting her death doesn't make it any easier.
Nobody around me understands how I feel so I can't talk to them about her.
Heartache and secret tears...
I miss her so much.

Sweet dreams my beautiful girl
I'll always love you , always miss you

     
rinconmde Posted: Oct 06 '07,  3:25 pm           Reply
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I am so sorry about your cat. My daughters cat passed away in her arms recently. He was only 3 yrs old. We thought he had epilepsy, but the meds did not help him and the Vet said w/all the symptoms and the fact he did not get better, he was very sure it was a brain tumor. The poor thing suffered at the end and we miss him SO much. He had the best personality. She moved far away and had to leave him with us, so we had him for about a yr and got so attached to him. He did such funny thinngs. She flew home when I told her about him getting worse.
I know we will never be able to find a cat like him again, but she has already gotten another kitten where she lives now and even though I have an older cat, I'm ready to get another one too.
I hope you got another cat, as it will help you cope.

     
divadp1 Posted: Oct 11 '07,  6:28 pm           Reply
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I feel greater comfort knowing that there are others who have lost their cats embraced within their arms. After almost 12 years, I lost my beloved cat Sambuca to saddle thrombus complicated with congestive heart failure yesterday morning. He was lucky enough to have only been affected with the clot in his right rear leg one month ago. He was really beginning to recover, regaining use of the leg and eating well. I was giving him Enalapril and taurine daily mixed in his food. And just as things began to look so much better, his rear left leg was hit with a clot on Sunday afternoon. I noticed him lying down next to the water bowl all sprawled out. I tried to pick him up and he just fell back down. The leg was ice cold (as the other side was before). He had litter stuck to his hind quarters because he was dragging himself on the floor. I bathed him to make him feel better. Over the next day, he laid still and quiet in the same spot. He hardly moved, just let out some weird grunting noises as if he felt pressure in his chest. But he still continued to purr incessantly! When I went to feed him on Tuesday morning, I could just tell by looking into his eyes that this was going to be his last day. My boyfriend George comforted him while I was at work and during my late college class at night. I returned home from class and he picked up his head as I walked through the door. I sat down next to him and he dragged himself over to me to rest his head on my lap. My tears just poured out. I decided to sit with him through the night because I just had a funny feeling that he wasn't going to make it. I debated over whether to rush him to the emergency vet. And I decided that I didn't want to stress him out any further or risk losing him on the car ride over there. All of the vets that I had spoken with earlier on forewarned me of what was eventually going to come. It was only a matter of time before the clots hit both legs and possibly a clot would travel up to his brain during the next episode. His heart was giving out and there really wasn't much more I could do other than make him comfortable. I spent the night sleeping on the couch with him laying on top of me or laying on the floor next to him. Over the next hour or so, he began to pant and stretch out. When he let one large exhale out, I just knew that this was it. I embraced him in my arms crying uncontrollably as I looked at him and told him that it was okay for him to go now. I told him that I loved him and always will and that I just wanted him to be in peace. I hope that I made the right decision by keeping him at home with me for his last few hours. I couldn't fathom leaving him in a cold metal cage being left to die and having someone call me to tell me that he had passed away in the night. I loved him so much and keep re-living the last few breaths that he took. I hope he knows that I did everything that I could to keep him going for that month and would do anything to have him back. Sambuca....you are very loved and will be in my heart always.... Any thoughts are appreciated as I am struggling miserably with his death. God bless and thank you.

     
rcjones Posted: Oct 12 '07,  6:53 pm           Reply
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RE: I lost my cat Aug,2007

I am saddened by your great loss. I sincerely hope that your heart will heal and you will reflect on the wonderful memories that your little one left behind.

I do understand what you went through. Please don't burden yourself with guilt. You did what your heart wanted you to do. You shared his last moments loving him.

Bless you. May you find peace.

Ronni

     
divadp1 Posted: Oct 13 '07,  6:19 am           Reply
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I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds as if your baby passed from the same or similar condition that my Sambuca did. I understand your pain and grief. It seems so unfair for a healthy cat to become paralyzed out of nowhere without any warning.

I just keep trying to remember all of the good times that I had with him to get the last few hours before he passed out of my mind. I'm sure you loved your baby dearly too. My heart shares your pain and I hope it gives you strength.

They're both in a better place now...walking on all four legs, running around, playing with feathers and yarnballs, and they are watching over us.

God bless you and your dear departed little baby.

     
divadp1 Posted: Oct 13 '07,  6:29 am           Reply
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Thank you so much Ronni. Your kind words definitely brought me comfort.

My guilt was unimaginable even though there was not much more that I could do for Sam because of his condition. Even if some medication was able to break up the clots in his arteries, his poor heart kept deteriorating and the clots were getting worse.

He had been everywhere with me for almost 12 years. Sam was a source of comfort, a "pillow" to lay my head on, and a chubby ball of fur to absorb my tears.

It still amazes me how he held on until both of us were ready. I guess animals really have that strong 6th sense. He was an amazing cat loved by anyone who walked into my home. Everyone knew Sambuca and was graced by his lovable presence.

Thank you again for your beautiful words. I realize that time will heal the pain, but I can't help but wish I had a few more years with my buddy. I'll always have him in my heart....

Dena

     
olimom Posted: Nov 03 '07,  11:41 am           Reply
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RE: I lost my cat Aug,2007

You have my deepest sympathy for you loss.
I need another kleenix now...
Nothing is harder than losing them in your arms as they look at you with that look.
As an MD told me, treating people are easier since they can tell you where they hurt and animals cannot.
What a beautiful name, Sambuca ....but how fortunate you were to have 12 many wonderful memories together. How lucky he was to have you in his life too.
As my dear dear friend just lost her cat of 15 years in her arms 2 nites ago, sleepless nites nursing and caring for her....renal failure and hyperthyroidism took her life....
They will always hold a special place in our hearts and know you are not alone as you mend....for all cats go to heaven to be with our loved ones and leave lasting memories in our hearts.

     
fiyero Posted: Nov 09 '07,  7:21 pm           Reply
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to all those whose recently lost a dear cat

I too just lost my dear little angel cat Fiyero. He was given to my son and I at 3 weeks old, a feral kitty. We soon discovered that he had a rare blood disorder and we went to great lengths to save this little feral tabby manx with such a wonderful personality. We had to give him special medicine to depress his immune system that was distroying his red blood cells. He had blood transfusions and mumberous vet visits but he always bounced back and I would often wonder if it was fair. But he was my sunshine and joy every morning and every day. He greated me and would curl up in my arms and fall asleep on his back and fall asleep purring away contently I just loved him. It was as if I was the only person in his world,it was such total unconditional love from this special feline angel. I knew that one day we would lose the battle and his little inlarged heart and one kidney would give out but you are never prepared for it when it happens. Suddenly the other day November 7, 2007 we couldn't find him and when we did, he was in the back of my closet and when we got him out he was having difficulty breathing. I gave him his meds as we have always done and didn't panic because he has always recovered and I too didn't want to add to his stress so I didn't take him to the vet immediately and I often wonder if I should have. That evening he was still having difficulties but still I thought he would pull out of it, unfortunately at 8:30 pm he wobbled over to me and I picked him up he gasped once and died in my arms. I was so distraught and devastated I just loved that little stubby tailed kitty! My one comfort is that he was able to stay for as long as he could in this world and give so much love and joy in our lives. I miss him every morning and the pain is so fresh and raw right now and my heart aches so bad right now I cry every morning when I don't feel him next to me purring and grooming me as he did. I feel the pain of everyone who has lost alittle pet they have loved so much and I feel that womens' pain who too just lost her her cat. I have other cats but this one was so fragile yet strong and he taught how to not give up when things seem so impossible and difficult. My little Fiyero only had 2 years and 4 months on this earth and in my life but he lived them well and to the max. God Bless and my thoughts go out to everyone who finds themselves in the same situation today, tomorrow or in the future. It is so hard to loose their love when we love them so hard. Leslye

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