Honey, we have to practice the sex again...
Written: Jan 04 '05
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Pros: Allows you to truly see your partner for what they really are.
Cons: I can't see anything bad in aiding a relationship.
The Bottom Line: This is an amazing book for those that are having issues with sex or not. It has made a huge impact in my relationship and will help yours as well.
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| biscuitfarmer's Full Review: Anne Hooper - Anne Hooper's Ultimate Sex Guide: A ... |
NOTE: If you have issues with the topic of sex, I am going to go into fairly great detail within this review. The review will not go beyond the scope of the book, however, some points are needed to be made in order to fully illustrate the book and it's focus. Please don't read any further if you issues with this topic.
I'm not sure if it's such a bad thing that my wife and I decided that we are going to put ourselves on a regimented sex boot camp. While we have never actually had any problems with our sex lives, we have found, that while somewhat overactive at times, we need to find different ways to pleasure each other. Our biggest problem these days, isn't the lack of sex, it has been the sex that we do just because and without any foreplay or anything to go along with it. So, we decided that we should do something to try and experiment with our sexuality and see what the two of us could create together.
Concept
The basic idea of this book is that we all have our own sexual energy and that most of us aren't actually tapping into it during sex. This doesn't mean that we aren't having sex properly, this just means that we are cutting out the emotions of sex and just having the physical penetration of sex and that's it.
The author believes that there is more to sex beyond the penetration alone. Obviously, I have always known myself that foreplay has made the sex life of my wife and I that much more intense, however, I never realized until reading this book, just how much more there was to foreplay than simple touching and a little makeout session.
The actual energy that the author discusses is the energy that you feel when you look at a beautiful body and feel desire for that body. However, you can't take advantage of that desire and it does something to you. The idea is to take that desire and aim it at your partner, in my case, my wife. I am supposed to stare at her naked body, rather than just jump on her and get to business. I am to look at her, enjoy the site of her, embrace her as the mother of my child and bearer of the fruit of new life. I am to caress her gently, enjoying her skin, thinking about how enjoyable and soft her skin feels.
Those are the little things that we don't take the time for once we're married. We just sort of hope that we have a free moment to get our jollies on and leave it at that.
Lessons
There are several different lessons taught throughout the book. The main one being that sex isn't just about physical penetration of the penis inserted into the vagina, but mouth to vagina, mouth to penis, and anal penetration as well. It talks about how by utilizing other forms of penetration and satisfaction, we learn to appreciation sex as a way of bringing our two energies together, and not just as a means of release.
The goal by the end of the programs is to allow you and your partner to experience one another in a way that only a married couple can. The author wants you to desire your partner in ways that you can't explain, that aren't sexual, but are an extreme devotion and appreciation for that person.
The book really illustrates different ways that you can bring this about through different lessons. Some of the lessons include talking to one another about a variety of generally sensitive subjects. Rather than avoiding the subject of anal sex, embracing it. Rather than avoiding oral sex, talking about it, and truly understanding the feelings of yourself and your partner.
Then the book moves into the actual programs, where you try out a wide variety of different positions, styles, and techniques. It starts with things like gentle penetration where you just enter, with no thrusting and just look into each others eyes, understanding that you are now connected, literally and figuratively. Now while in this position, you continue to communicate non verbally, just looking and thinking about one another. Then after doing this for a while, separate from one another and stare at each other for a while longer. While the sexual tension builds up, you also begin to notice things about your partner, like their smile, the glisten in their eyes, things like that. Things that you normally take for granted in the everyday grind of life.
Overview
This book really does work. While I don't think we really needed a book to make all of this happen, the book made us really think about our relationship and help us focus on ourselves as a couple and not just as mommy and daddy for a change.
We now wake up in the morning and we just take the time to lay next to each other in silence. We have made a point of doing this for the first half an hour to an hour everyday. We don't turn on the television, we don't turn on the radio, we just lay together, in each other's arms, smelling each other's fragrance, and absorbing everything that is 'us'.
Overall, I think this book can be quite helpful to any relationship, however, it is extremely important that both partners are willing participants or it will not work. And both have to take it seriously. I didn't really want to do it at first, thinking that it would just be dumb, but after I experienced it first hand, it was truly amazing and the sex couldn't be better. Now I suggest that all of you that have actually read this entire review, all 2 of you, grab your partner and this book, and experience what marriage is supposed to feel like and feel like you did on your first date all over again.
Recommended:
Yes
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