I Think I Am Losing My Mind:
I never had the urge to review a book. Although I am an avid reader I rarely share my book experience with others, until now. I’m sure you are wondering how I came to read this book. Well, wonder no more. I am going through a divorce with the woman I have been with for 13 years of my life. Surprisingly, it has been relatively calm. No real physical scars to see, but inside I am still an open wound. The hardest part is that after all the hurt, pain, and sorrow, I still am madly in love with her. I still have passion for her. I am not going to dwell on my personal problems here, I am going to review this book. And here it goes.

Wandering Through a Fog:
As my marriage began to fall apart, I found myself wondering how it happened. I kept trying to identify one significant event that caused my world to crumble. I was and I am still lost, wandering through a fog of pain, deception, and guilt. One day a good friend of mine handed me the book Crazy Time. I looked at the cover and said thank you but I don’t need this. I looked at the back cover and seen the author was a woman. I immediately assumed it would be a one-sided book from a divorced woman’s perspective. I tossed it in my locker and there it sat for 6 months.

Here Comes the Pain Again:
Separated, reunited, apart, together. However I was looking at it, my marriage was ending. I grabbed the book one day when I had nothing else to read and it opened my eyes to my own world. At first, I felt as though the author Abigail Trafford had heard every detail of my thoughts and had been surveilling me for the past couple of years. I was shocked to say the least. I thought my situation was unique. Nobody on this planet could understand or know what I was feeling. Mrs. Trafford’s book was like an ice-cold bucket of water being dumped on my head.

The First Hand Details of Hell:
This book breaks down every stage of marriage and divorce. It is amazing at how accurately the author describes our dreams, hopes, desires, pains, disappointments, inner-demons. The book is broken down into 3 categories and several subcategories. It was as if I was reading my own autobiography as I poured through the pages. I couldn’t set this book down. It was if she was reading my past, present, and future. The categories are as follows;

Part One - Crisis
a. deadlock
b. confrontation
c. separation

Part Two - Crazy Time
a. on the edge
b. relief/disbelief
c. deep shock
d. anger/ambivalence/depression

Part Three - Recovery
a. emergence of self
b. public divorce
c. sex
d. love/remarriage/redivorce
e. marriage for good.

The main theme behind this book is the hidden roles we assume in everyday life. It makes these roles obvious of two people in a marriage. It is that one is always dominant and one is always submissive. This is prevalent in almost every marriage today. It also focuses on when a marriage breaks up, how the roles tend to be reversed with the submissive gaining self-strength and the dominant in disbelief and denial

Here Comes The Sun Again:
Although this book has not made my divorce easy. It has eased the pain by telling why things happen the way they do. It explains your partners behavior as well as your own. It has opened my eyes and forced me to understand my wrongs in the deal and hopefully help me grow. I recommend this to any man or woman going through a divorce or in a deadlock marriage. You will be surprised at how well it describes you.



Recommended: Yes