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Great Review! (Reply to this comment)
by KateTPZ
If I ever marry again (first time ended badly - we could have used the book!) I'll add this one to my library!
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Apr 24 '01
4:07 pm PDT
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Mrs Grouch has a name??? (Reply to this comment)
by gracef
Way cool! ;)
I really liked this review! You're a lucky man, Grouch! Now get off the Internet and tear Mrs. Grouch away from the TV. You don't have to tell us the rest!
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Apr 24 '01
6:12 pm PDT
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Bravo! (Reply to this comment)
by prettyinpink
When I do couples therapy, I'm amazed at how little married partners listen to one another. And those unspoken assumptions are real killers!
Of course, all the communications tools in the world won't help much IF you haven't picked a partner with values you respect...a mistake I can vouch for all too personally!
Glad you two are doing so well!
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Apr 24 '01
7:16 pm PDT
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Mrs. Grouch is one lucky lady! (Reply to this comment)
by forkids
Well, I'm one of the lucky Epinions folks who have met you in person and I thank my lucky stars for that. I LOVED this review and I'm passing it along to many that I know and love and that includes Mr. forkids. Your reviews, since day one, have always commanded a standing ovation and this is yet another one.
Bravo, Grouch! You are one helluva writer, Father, and husband. Good to see you proactive with your marriage, you inspire us all. I caught a good one but we could use a little of this advice every now and again. Thanks for recommending it, off to look.
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Apr 24 '01
8:06 pm PDT
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Inspirational! (Reply to this comment)
by Dr_Steph
Sounds like an extremely valuable program! Where can I get one of those magnets. :)
Steph
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Apr 24 '01
8:46 pm PDT
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Excellent and informative! (Reply to this comment)
by Lisa_J
Splendid review! Where is the Extremely helpful button?!
I admire how you added personal experience to the review. The magnet idea is so good! It will be a symbolic (and useful) reminder of your weekend of preventative maintenance!
I still glisten when I make contact with a candle we received during a weekend preventative maintenance retreat!
Thank you for sharing!
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Apr 24 '01
10:38 pm PDT
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17 years vs. 1.1 years! Thanks for the tips.... (Reply to this comment)
by flak-attak
Fantastic conveyance of a heart-felt story. Too often people -- especially men -- cannot accurately relate how they feel inside.
I'm glad you took the time to share a bit of the process.... Twas both inspirational and educational (I'm just working on my second year of marriage.) I guess for Mrs. Flak-attak and myself, the honeymoon is not yet over.
Hopefully it'll stick around awhile.
Regards,
Sam
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Apr 24 '01
11:52 pm PDT
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heck..... (Reply to this comment)
by jankp
Who needs Paris when you have glaciers? Awesome review indeed. You're not a Stoic to me.
Jan :-)
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Apr 25 '01
12:30 am PDT
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Gorgeous review.. (Reply to this comment)
by owling
My marriage is very new (just 6 days in fact!), but I think I will pick this up, so that it will be just as wonderful in another 56 years. Thank you for the recommendation.
heather
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Apr 25 '01
3:45 am PDT
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I loved it (Reply to this comment)
by GinaHill
This is one of your very best reviews - felt like smiling, knowing that there are still people who care about their marriage as much as I do... I've been here, with "Jeffie", for 18 years on June 4th- Wow! How could that be? and CAN totally empathize with much of what you've said - Thanks, Grouch - Enjoy your day:) Gina
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Apr 25 '01
3:47 am PDT
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Nice review! (Reply to this comment)
by janinew3
Thank you for sharing this information with us. It says a lot about a marriage lasting 17 years, good for you. I'm sure that this review will be encouraging for a lot of readers, whether married 1 year or 50 years. No matter how long you've been in a relationship, there is always room for growth. Nice work, as always!!! janinew3
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Apr 25 '01
5:49 am PDT
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Thanks, Dr. David! (Reply to this comment)
by scmrak,  in Books
I generally avoid reading reviews of books in the self-help genre; but I thought I'd give yours a try. I'm certainly glad I did!
With twenty-four years under our belts, Ms scmrak and I have settled into those selfsame ruts occupied by too many long-term couples. We, also, have our Stoic and our Mindreader (M_. Negative and The Kid, in our case), though we don't have the 'fridge magnet. Maybe we should get one...
Seward's a lovely place, though last time I saw it, it was hip-deep in snow. The fancy restaurants by the harbor were all closed for the winter, but there's a homey place down by the museum that makes a dy-no-mite bowl of pea soup!
Rex
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Apr 25 '01
6:01 am PDT
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What a great guy you must be.... (Reply to this comment)
by WendyD3520
My husband wouldn't go to a class or read a book like that if I put a gun to his head (literally).
Our first date was "Carrie" - maybe that says something about us!
(I love him - I also just love to make fun of him!)
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Apr 25 '01
6:15 am PDT
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Marriage retreats (Reply to this comment)
by glomarrone
Hi,
Marriage encounters or retreats are really a great idea for marriages that basically good but going through rough spots. They are also good for keeping strong marriages strong. I wish my husband & I could have gone on one of these when our kids were young. The peace and quiet alone would have been worth it.
Sometimes it takes a change in venue and time alone to talk and listen to affect a change. Glad it worked and strengthen your marriage.
In our marriage of 32 years, I complain about all the time my husband watches sports. He, in turn, complains about the length of time I spend not on just on the computer but specifically on Epinions.com. I tried to get him interested in writing on the site. He signed up, reads a few epinions now and then but won't write an epinion. He doesn't like the idea of being rated by others, I think. Instead he turns on the TV to catch whatever sport is televised. Oh well. Now I go on epinions when he's not around or when he listening to sports.
Loved your epinion. As always, it is well written and insightful. See you again next time.
Gloria
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Apr 25 '01
6:45 am PDT
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What timing! (Reply to this comment)
by murasaki
...just when my husband and I were casting around for a workbook. We're still newlyweds (six months, 14 days) but we want to start our marriage off right. I've already acquired "Love Among Equals" and "Crib Notes on the First Year of Marriage" (neither in the database!!!) but I have to add this one to the list.
Thanks for a very personal and enlightening review!
--murasaki
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Apr 25 '01
8:44 am PDT
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Thank you! (Reply to this comment)
by Redlass
This sounds like a must-have book. I'm off to Amazon to buy one now--or perhaps two or three. It sounds like a wonderful gift.
Bridgette
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Apr 25 '01
1:01 pm PDT
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We opted for regular counseling over a period of .... (Reply to this comment)
by NFP
...a year-and-half about 10 years ago, first separately with the same person, and then together, rather than going on a retreat or working fropm a book.
But in the end the lesson is the same because the format of the help doesn't matter -- what matters is that when couples need help, it's better to face it than ignore it.
Excellent post, Dave. Life's too short and love is too precious to waste any time on private regrets and festering animosities. Pride goeth before the fall, as they say.
I applaud you both.
nick
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Apr 25 '01
3:07 pm PDT
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Your personal experience (Reply to this comment)
by proeditor
adds so much to your recommendation of this book. Thanks for sharing the intimacies (well, not quite) of your marriage. I just can't imagine that Mrs. Grouch thinks you spend too much time on the Internet!!!
Many of your lines were so very true, but I especially related to this one, "I can write until the cows come home, but when it comes to verbal expression, I’m completely tongue-tied)." Can't tell you how many writers I've known who suffer from tongue-tiedness.
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Apr 25 '01
6:59 pm PDT
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Wow - (Reply to this comment)
by KMINER
I found this to be really interesting ...
I think all marriages take work and I very much appreciate your honesty and insight into this - thanks for sharing!
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Apr 26 '01
12:37 pm PDT
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Thanks (Reply to this comment)
by gracenwilk
What a wonderful review, David. The quality of your writing parallels the promise of the course/book with winsome humor and authenticity.
My favorite line was "a little bit Ozzie & Harriet, a little bit Waltons, and a little bit Simpsons." It describes Linda, Meg, Nate and I well-- as long as no one asks what the specific proportions of Nelson/Walton/Simpson happen to be!
Mark
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Apr 26 '01
8:50 pm PDT
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I may yet take my Alaskan wife... (Reply to this comment)
by jkkelley
...and do something just like this, even if we do it someplace besides Seward. (If you went to Bartlett, you might know her; if you played ball, you probably knew her dad.)
Thanks for a very intelligent, feeling review that conveys a message I've found to be key: if you want to have a good marriage, mostly, you have to bust your butt and work for it.
jk
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Apr 26 '01
10:00 pm PDT
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Exceptionally well done (Reply to this comment)
by eplovejoy
Someone has already suggested that your elegant writing here deserves praise higher than "Very Helpful," and that is certainly true. It is pieces like this that elevate Epinions and add to the luster you've given the site in all your other contributions.
I'm single so I'm not part of the audience for either this book. But your advice sounds so good that I'm going to follow the only bit that appears to apply: I'm off to watch what happens in honeymoon suites in Niagara Falls. Umm, that's what you meant, right?
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Apr 27 '01
2:15 pm PDT
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This was a masterpiece! (Reply to this comment)
by diverpam
Mrs. Grouch must be so proud to know that your finest piece of Epinions work so far was on such a personal topic.
I commend you not only on this outstanding review but on being such a caring husband that you would participate so fully in this process.
Now I have to go order this book.
Pam
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Apr 28 '01
2:53 pm PDT
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Awww Grouch! (Reply to this comment)
by kristinafh
This is sweet! I've been married to the same guy for 11 years. He is dying to go to Alaska (his idea of a vacation). Not mine! :)
Kristina
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Apr 28 '01
8:52 pm PDT
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Wow! (Reply to this comment)
by Bunny74
Need I say more?
~Heather
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May 01 '01
12:17 pm PDT
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wasn't helpful to me (Reply to this comment)
by arkk
although i enjoy your writing style. My own marriage is a bliss without any books (9 years) so i guess i am not the intended audience anyway.
I also think that no epinion should be that long. But once again, very nice writing, imo.
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May 02 '01
11:26 pm PDT
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Thanks -I need one of those magnets to save my marriage... (Reply to this comment)
by makeupu
This year will be our 18th year of marriage and the last few being the most difficult. I desperately need this book and that getaway retreat! Thanks for the great advice and for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us!
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May 04 '01
7:22 am PDT
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Heartfelt, and really useful (Reply to this comment)
by pipet
I've only been married 2.5 years, but I want my marriage to last... this sounds like a really useful tool to help accomplish that. I already know that as much as hubby & I love each other, there are some days when we don't handle our conflicts well, and it's often hard to pick apart the reasons. Thanks for the excellent review.
pipet
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May 04 '01
10:40 am PDT
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A little bit Ozzie & Harriet, a little bit Waltons, and a little bit Simpsons (Reply to this comment)
by pluckyduck
.... sounds like my relationship as well :) I wouldn't have it any other way (too much O & H would make one barf), but when the Simpsons hang around too much, we start heading for trouble.
I believe there is nothing harder or more rewarding in life than making and maintaining a good marriage, and that includes raising children. Raising children is a piece of cake next to what it takes to make a good, solid marriage....kids and parents go through rough spots, but there's not much danger of one falling out of love with the other, etc. etc. etc. Your mom is always your mom, is your life partner your life partner forever? Not if you don't work your butt off.
Not miminimizing the work to raise children, just maximizing the work to make a good marriage. :)
Great job, Mr. Grouch. I wish another 50 years of good marriage on you and Mrs. Grouch.
Andrea
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May 06 '01
8:52 am PDT
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And now your marriage is the magnet, right? (Reply to this comment)
by PianoGirl
This well-balanced review of the PREP program was not only a great read, but one with practical pointers for helping your marriage to stay on track. I appreciate your honesty about your own personal weaknesses in y'all's marriage. (Hmm, I think you may have a sometime twin in my own "Stoic" husband...) By opening your heart to the reader, you no doubt have encouraged a lot of folks to take that first step toward strengthening their own marriage.
Bravo!
Thank you.
Sincerely,
Bron
PianoGirl
iplay4hisglory@earthlink.net
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May 12 '01
7:44 am PDT
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