flashfriday's Full Review: Dr. Laura Schlessinger - Ten Stupid Things Men Do ...
On the way home from work, I occasionally turn on the radio and listen to Dr. Laura. I agreed with a lot of the advice that she gave her listeners, so I decided to go out and buy the book "Ten Stupid Things Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives." After reading the book several times, I am convinced that this book would help a lot of men who get off track and can't seem to find a way back. I will include a brief synopsis of all ten chapters and I will give an overall review at the end.
The Ten Stupid Things...
Stupid Chivalry: Dr. Laura pinpoints the fact that many men get involved with insecure and immature women and are convinced that they can save or transform them. Men also see themselves as handy and often fail when they realize that they can't "fix" a relationship.
Stupid Independence: When men can't face the fact that they need loving and bonding they escape into a world of drugs, pornography, work, play, and meaningless sex. This one really struck home for me and I realized that I had been "escaping" for most of my life. This chapter provided great insight to not only my life, but that of my friends and family.
Stupid Ambition: Instead of focusing on family and society, men tend to focus on stupid things like money, power, and idols.
Stupid Strength: Dr. Laura points out the fact that men often use passive aggressiveness, force and intimidation to regain control when they feel weak, useless, and insecure.
Stupid Sex: Measuring your power and masculinity by your ability to perform sexually. These meaningless sexual conquests often lead to infidelities and shallow relationships.
Stupid Matrimony: Men often realize too late that they married the wrong person and that they feel helpless to correct the mistake they made.
Stupid Husbanding: Being in a marriage in which you still feel single and you replace your mom with your wife. You expect your new "mommy" to take care of everything.
Stupid Parenting: You fail to bond or nurture your children because you believe it is the women's role. In the process, you and your children miss out on one of the special gifts in life.
Stupid Boyishness Immature men who have not had a healthy relationship with their mothers, often form relationships that are geared to protect you from your insecure feelings about your mother.
Stupid Machismo It is only by truly understanding the difference between being a male and a man, that one becomes a man.
My Overall Review
Each chapter speaks with a rare assuredness and bluntness that cuts through all of the rhetoric and gets to the issue at hand. Although I am a happily married man, I did find myself doing several of the stupid things in my daily life. It helped me to realize that I often use the Internet to "escape" my life and family.
I also enjoyed the fact that Dr. Laura included letters from actual male listeners that expressed true pain and sorrow for the mistakes they have made. It is refreshing to see men display true heartfelt emotion and it helped me realize that I block out my emotions daily to protect myself.
Whether or not you agree with Dr. Laura, I am convinced that all men would benefit in some way from reading this book. My only complaint about the book is that I felt that a lot of her advice is just short therapy and that it might deter someone from getting some real therapy. Men shouldn't view this book as a "quick fix" but rather as an eye-opener and a new beginning.
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