It is seldom a complaint of men that women are "not romantic enough" - however, the reverse is often true - women complain frequently that the men in their lives are not romantic, not attentive, not caring......

That this book was written by a man not only shows that romance is a 'mindset' - but that men really do have and can tap into that romantic side. The author comes right out and says that 'Love may make the world go round, but it is "romantic love" that makes the ride worthwhile.'

It might "seem" like enough, to be able to say that you love someone. Even an intimate caring loving relationship, it might be; but while Love is the foundation of a relationship, Romance is the expression of that love. It makes life sparkle.

The good news is that ANY relationship can be invigorated and inspired by the addition of even a tiny bit of romance - the GREAT news is that a tiny bit of romance lights a spark, that can become a warming, nurturing flame - or like a snowball rolling down a hill - it grows as it moves forward....and this book can help you find it.

The book is broken into many sections, "topics" - so that you can easily find a specific idea that will work for whatever situation you are in at the moment. Also, most of the ideas do not require great expense or even effort - and are simple to implement, with resounding effects.

For example -
*622 - hide little one-line notes all over his car...on the visor, in the glove compartment, in the ash tray, the trunk, under the hood, the mirror - (my own addition to this - under the gas tank "lid" - then when you are with him, tell him to pull into a "full service" station - for the few cents more to have the tank filled FOR him, someone else will know how loved he is!)

*It's not what you do, but how you do it!
* including things like #69 - never give a gift without wrapping it. (with nice paper and fancy bows) - the presentation is at least worth a little extra time on your part!

One particular thing I like about the book, is that so many ideas are "collections" of ideas....For another example:
*Maybe you want to give him/her the entire collection of The Moody Blues (his/her all-time favorite) with a creative twist. Instead of just wrapping up the CD's and handing them over, try this:
* Remove all the CDs from their cases
* Hide the CDs around the house
* Gift wrap each CD case separately
* Attach a note to each gift...
* Each gift gives clues to the location of the CD...
* Each clue is based on the album's title - -
~Days of Future Passed hidden in the photo album
~To Our Children's Children in the kid's toybox
~On the Threshold of a Dream hidden in the bedroom
~Long Distance Voyager hidden with airline tickets to Tahiti

Now this one would not end up being such an inexpensive one, but you get the idea! and while perhaps not a trip to Tahiti, maybe a weekend at some quaint little bed and breakfast...maybe inserting a tiny "coupon" for the weekend?

The book also contains a list of "Do's and Don't's", like in...
Go out of your way for each other - not just when it's convenient. Pick him/her up at the airport, no matter what time of day or night. And who knows - maybe have a giggling good time over ~very~ early breakfast at some little 24-hour place that serves great coffee and home-made cinnamon rolls!

(and my personal favorite) - #88 - "Decide to fall in love all over again - That's it, just decide. You don't need to read books on analyzing your relationship, you don't even need to talk to anyone about it. You just need to decide!

As I said, the book is broken into sections, each page a different "theme" - with 5 or 6 ideas to match that theme - the ideas are short, maybe just a phrase long, but each one is a wonderful idea, and can easily stand all alone.

like #176 - "Send HIM one rose - - with a note "this bud's for you!"

The book also has an abundance of resources - catalogues with 800#s, toys and games to play (also with 800#s for information), long long lists of the perfect songs/music for any occasion or feeling, (maybe you can create your OWN tape or CD of the perfect romantic music for her/him? or a tape for his/her car? imagine yourself turning on the car, and the tape is already in place, ready to play - maybe with a few "almost" whispered words from him/her?)

Over and over in the book, the author says it, pleads with us to do it, even commands it of us - - right NOW, this very moment, get up, and DO SOMETHING for that person in your life - get up from the computer, blow a kiss across the room, send a quirky little email, (maybe one that sounds like a "note from the teacher" - you just WAIT til you get home!)- anything - big, small, whatever - anything that will connect you to another person, and start a tiny spark.

Being romantic is something that gets easier with practice - and you don't need a teacher or a guide - armed with this book, you can make differences in the relationships that matter right NOW. There is no such thing as a "non-romantic" person - there may be a person who has just never practiced. Don't wait for the other person to make the first move - become their inspiration!

And as you try new ideas, even little ones, you WILL become inspired to try others - to create ideas of your own, even. And your partner will feel the change - maybe not the first time, but the effects are like a pebble dropped in calm water - the ripples spread farther than the tiny stone could ever travel.

The book is hard-cover, beautiful sitting on the coffee table (and your friends would probably ask about it - wouldn't it be nice if they just "knew" by looking at you?) It costs $ 18.95 hardcover ($2. less for soft cover) at Barnes & Noble.

P.S. Now, while I have listed some wonderful tidbits from the book, even ideas that you can use right NOW, in your own relationships, there really should be "frosting on the cake" - and so.....

In closing, and something else for any who think they are "helpless or hopeless" - Here are "23 kinds of romantic surprises!" (Hint: yes, you are sposed to USE one of them - today!)
1. Once-in-a-lifetime surprises
2. Unfolding surprises
3. Bait-and-switch surprises
4. Shocking surprises
5. Mystery-event surprises
6. Total surprises
7. BIG surprises
8. little surprises
9. Expected-but-not-right-now surprises
10. Expensive surprises
11. Surprise tickets
12. Group surprises
13. Surprise vacations
14. Public surprises
15. Private surprises
16. Surprises involving a collaborator
17. Midnight surprises
18. Surprises at work
19. Sexy surprises
20. Funny surprises
21. Meaningful surprises
22. Out-of-character surprises
23. Sweet surprises

That's right - just do it! - today, right now, do something -

And Enjoy it!




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