Let Me Get to the Meat of this Book
Written: May 12 '00
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Pros: gives encouraging ideas for talking sexy
Cons: not all of it will be useful
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| jankp's Full Review: Barbara Keesling Ph.D. - How to Talk Sexy to the O... |
****This book review may be offensive to certain people. If you choose to read it, please look with an eye towards presentation of facts and not opinions of the topic. Thank you.****
It is immediately obvious that this is a self-help book for women who want better, meatier sex, who, supposedly, are unhappy being mice in the bedroom and, without their mates' suggestion, pick up this book by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D, to become screaming tigresses in heat. Does this sound like a bad idea to you? Perhaps, but I must give credit to Barbara for pointing out that your man must be told about your intentions so he is not surprised and become suspicious, perhaps feeling a lack of communication.
She fully believes that any woman can learn to say words she has never dared speak before by giving herself permission, visualization exercises and lots of practice, first privately written down in a notebook and then with her mate, who can also follow along in the book visualizing and practicing, too, if he wishes.
Examples of her exercises
1. Think of other words for yours and his body parts. Not only of the private parts, but for every sexy detail of the human body, such as mouth, hands, buttocks, nipples, armpits...You can be naked looking in the mirror to better appreciate the sexiness of your bodies (when calling your own body parts) or touching him when naming his body parts.
2. Now think of nicknames for vagina and penis ex-lovers have used. This is supposed to be amusing. Examples are dork, weenie, peepee, serpent, captain, Richard (long for dick).
3. Finally think of verbs for the nouns you thought of above. These describe the action of yours and his body parts and include such examples as touch, screw, grab, caress, thrust. (If you're blushing, remember these words are legitimate Scrabble words.)Follow this by thinking of adjectives until you can make full sentences. Experiment with the many different sentences you can make. (Place an asterisk in the notebook by the ones you enjoy most.)
4.You're now ready to start saying these sentences aloud, slowly with a husky tone. Visualize saying it to your man, then work yourself up to screaming it. When you feel you're done rehearsing, try it with an audience.
5. Start doing exercises with your man, remembering that these are exercises, not sexual acts. Well, I need not go into these guidelines with your fertile imaginations in full gear. You can read the book, though, if you're the black and white type who leaves nothing to chance...:-)
In Conclusion
This woman author may be an experienced sex therapist, but I'll decide what I think sexy talk is, thank you. It does not include names or cutesy, meaty nicknames of body parts! I certainly don't want to give the man I love an ongoing commentary on our lovemaking as if it's a romantic novel or an X-rated baseball game. I did think the exercise where she copies the sounds and actions he makes in bed to be helpful advice for helping shy women loosen up, but the sexy talk advice left much to be desired, in my opinion.
I say just be who you are. That's who he fell in love with, after all. If he wants you to talk during lovemaking, he'll encourage you and listen to you no matter what you say. If you're afraid of turning him off, or can't think of anything to say, maybe you should read this book to know what you might say...and what you might not want to say!
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