Talking yourself into staying fat!
Jul 02 '00
As most know by now, I am not a traditionalist and do things more backwards or different than others. I can't walk a straight line without stopping to lean over and pick up the daisy along the way. I can't do anything boring unless I can see some fun or challenge to it, or add some of those things to the "chore" That is just the way I am and have just learned to deal with it. I would sit in church and knit if I could get away with it.
One of the hardest things for me to do is diet, and many will now say well so what is different or unique about that? But the difference with me is that I can't do this buddy or support system idea. It does not work for me!!! It works the opposite if you can imagine that! I do not want to discuss my diet habits with someone else. I dont do that with even my closest friends generally. If a comment is made about how great I look since I dropped 700 pounds (just kidding there) then I will accept the compliment graciously, but not linger over the hows of the diet that was successful. Same thing goes if I fail at a diet and gain 700 pounds (again kidding), I wont lament over why the diet failed with most other people. There is a rare time I will get into a deep discussion about diet, weight loss and the pro's/con's, etc, with someone else. But if that happens, it was not a planned meeting or conversation....the topic just came up and it was important to both conversationalists at the moment.
The concept of support groups is very good overall if you can be open and discuss your weight loss/gain openly and honestly. And if the leader of the support group can be a sort of inspiration. Weight Watchers has a great idea for the most part in their meetings...with the weigh in, discussion topic and diet to follow. I have attended Weight Watchers multiple times, but always left because I could not stand the positive hoopla over a 1/4 pound weight loss. Don't applaud me for that......granted it is better than any gain.....but that could have been due to the bathroom break just prior to weigh in. Then I can't sit in the meeting and watch the leader tell me how successful they were in their 100lb weight loss 20 years ago and how they maintain that loss to this day. Then while they are talking, they wave their arms in animated conversation and the flabby arms are swinging back and forth under neath and their stomach still hangs to their knees. I dont mean disrespect to these fine people, but I can't be inspired or encouraged to think when I lose weight my stomach will still be my knees best friend, or that my arms can still sway in the breeze. I can't do Overeaters Anonymous either.....the name alone scares me off. There is nothing anonymous about being fat and I just picture all in the meeting going "hi, my name is ten_angel and I am obese" and the room responding "hi ten_angel". I am sure there are twelve steps to overeating also and the serenity prayer is said. Again I mean no disrespect to this group.....it just won't work for me.
The buddy system is where you have someone you contact if you want to eat. This person is one you stay in close contact daily or more often, via phone, person, or the internet. The idea is great.....someone to get to know who can help you during the worse times of the dieting process. Also someone who can be your biggest fan when you have a successful day or week to cheer and encourage you on. This sounds wonderful and can be for most people. But for me it was only a way to hear another person's reasons for going to McD's last night and the night before and the night before. I only heard how much the person ate the night before, rather than talking about the things that may be stemming the eating binge. It only made me want to make a trip to McD's. I have tried a buddy system over the phone, in person, and over the internet. The end result was I came to dread hearing from my buddy and hearing how depressed she was and so went and ate again!
I know it sounds cold and selfish about not wanting to hear and help someone who really needs help with their weight loss. Well I am dieting, but I don't want to live and breath that fact every minute of every day. That is depressing in itself. I want to have it be a big focus and consciousness in my life, so I can stay aware enough of my goal, to make it successful. But to think of it everytime I come on the computer, or talk on the phone or take a walk......that is not my style. Maybe it makes me weaker or more strange, but forgetting about it helps me more than spending every waking moments wondering if that 1/4 pound is gone today. When I forget it for a few minutes or hours, then I find myself more refreshed and ready to go for it again. I do search the internet for dieting tips and encouragement ideas. I love www.cyberdiet.com. But I do avoid their message boards......another not for me system. However I do draw strength and guidance for my diet from their inspirational and educational pages. I read their success stories and get excited for those people. But I don't want to hash the day by day , blow by blow accounting of how they got there. I like to hear how they did it in a nutshell....not a 200 page diary.
I only wish success to all who endeavor upon the diet path.....and very much admire those who are successful. But I also do not think less of those who are unsuccessful "this time".......I wish them all the luck in the world to succeed the next time!
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Member: Deb
Location: Memphis, Tennessee
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About Me:
An RN,newly wed, and mom of 2. Loves life, the beach and a good book!!!.
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